Hi,
Not posted here before, but needed to vent!!!
DD1 (11 yrs next week) is supposed to be sitting her SAT's this week. Has been studying really hard all school year for them, to the detriment of all other education!! Only, Friday DD3 (3 yrs) brought sickness bug home with her from nursery. By Tues night, DD2 (9) had caught it, then by bedtime, DD1. She was distraught. I said, Oh well, you'll get to stay home and skive with Mammy tomorrow then won't you? She screamed and shouted... "I can't, I have to do it, or i'll be put in Dunces class at JLV (our name for secondary school she starts in Sep. Eventually, got her to cslm down and try and get some sleep.
This morning, she'd had a complete turnaround. She's a very slim girl, been seen by GP for being underweight (not eating disorder, just a skinny minny) and hadn't eaten for ALMOST 24 hours due to bug. just setting scene - it doesn't take much to make her REALLY weak. Said she didn't want to go and felt dizzy even just sitting up, never mind standing.
Phoned into school (both DD1 and 2)school have policy (like most schools) of 48 hour absence. within 10 mins got call back asking if she wouold just be able to "pop" in to sit test and then coud go back home. Said not possible as she can't sit upright etc and I had a seizure out of blue last week (never before) and have been told not to drive until been seen by specialist and told i'm safe and it was a 1 off. So would have to Walk her home (normally not a problem, but when your puking?)not to mention having to bring other 2 children out to get her. Said she could have use of deputy head's office and wouldn't even need to put her uniform on!! I said No.
10 minutes later, Deputy head himsef called - who happens to also be DD2's form teacher. He tried alsorts to persuade me to get her to "rally". Said first test is only 20 mins then they get 40 min break time, so she could go outside??????!!!!! I asked what he might expect her to do out there He said well I suppose she could have a chair and just sit in fresh air - Oh mums, if only we had known of this as being a cure. All of kids could have been "put out" into back gardens. no more school absence. offered to bring her home himself. All of his conversation deigned to make me feel crap so I would make an effort to get her there. Still told him no.
Then, Maths teacher called. Now have to be fair to her. She was only one to be concerned for DD1, rather than herself or school. told me not to worry and to tell DD not to either. The threat of Dunces class is just something we use to get them to focus, she said. on previous call with deputy, told him how disappointed DD2 was as she has to stay off 48 hours. half of her year gone on residential. Those who don't go get to do "Art week" and she is gutted she's missing it. didn't offer to relax rules for her.
I asked if she couldn't just take the tests another time and the school told me no, she won't get scored unless she does them in the right order. Then in a later call, told me they can infact apply for an extension and if I can assure them she'll be fit in the morning, she can do todays and tomorrows together. so they lied to make the story suit them AGAIN.
I am truly disgusted with them. I'm dead against the KS2 Sats and the pressure they create, BUT feel for DD who has worked so hard and just wants to get a level 5. so for her, she's doing it all tomorrow so that Year 6 won't have been a TOTAL waste. Thoughts anyone? should I put in official complaint to Education dept?
thanks
karen