DC's last day at primary school - am ridiculously upset!

[chicaguapa]

We're moving 250 miles south and DCs left their school today. DD is in y3 and is okay and not sure what all the fuss about leaving was about. DS is in reception and sobbed himself to sleep saying how much he's going to miss his best friend and teacher. And I can't stop crying about it. I feel so sad that I've taken them out of their lovely little school. I was involved a lot at the school so feel the wrench too. And the teachers have said how sorely missed DC will be so I feel really sad about that too.

Tell me I'm being a complete sap. DH is a bit bewildered - though being supportive.

Didn't want to read and run. You're not being a sap - you have a huge upheaval ahead of you and it will take a while for you all to adjust. I'm sure your youngest will be fine, give him and yourself time.
Good luck. xxx

Thanks. Hopefully I'll feel better tomorrow.

Am just now having doubts about the move. It was such a lovely school for them so I think I?ve made a HUGE mistake taking them out. The teachers were so upset they were leaving and I just can?t see the children being as valued at the new school. At the moment I just want to call the whole thing off but it?s already too late as DS?s place has been filled already.

Hopefully the negative feelings will pass soon. It's very unlike me.

Aww bless your youngest- I am not sure MY DS would realise what goodbye means, so you obviously have a bright one there

I would cry if we had to leave our school too. The teachers are lovely and the whole school great so far- will you be able to maybe send a nice card once you are settled down south?

Hi Chicaguapa,

I had this exact situation one year ago. I was far more upset than my children. I kept feeling that I had made a huge mistake especially as ds1 (year 1 at the time) didn't settle into his new school. I cried for ages after. One year on, I am happy to report that both ds1 and ds2 are now settled and very happy (I did have to move schools again)in their new school. They have both made some lovely friends and all in all I can honestly say that it was the right thing to do. If I had been told a year ago that everything was going to be alright I'm not sure I would have believed it. Good luck - it will be fine!

I will be having this if our move works out. School now knows that we are planning to move (our house's for sale sign is quite visisble) and I have already been told we will be missed.

I help in school quite a bit and will keep on doing it

This is going to be the hardest move we've ever done and it's probably not a coincidence that it's the first time when it has meant DC changing schools. I have to keep reminding myself how much I liked the new school when we went to have a look round and how excited I was that DC would be going there. Even though I don't feel any of that excitement at the moment.

I just feel so bad for DS too. Even though he will get over it, his feelings at the moment are still real to him. If he was that upset over a girl who had broken his heart, I'd be going for her. But it's actually us that have caused him that upset and it makes me feel very guilty. Especially as there's no good reason for moving other than me and DH fancied a change.

The old school has asked me to let them know how DC have settled into their new school so I can do that but I'll miss the daily contact with DC's teachers, who I had a good friendship with.