Think ds has been bullying someone - cannot understand why

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Ds (5) is in Y1. I overheard yesterday when he was talking to his friend that they have been playing a game which involves pushing a YR girl. Apparently 3 or 4 of them do it but ds started it. Had a long talk with him, told him it was very wrong and he must stop and I will have to tell the teacher. He got very upset and said he doesn't know why he does it and cannot stop.

I'm baffled. He is usually quite emotionally aware and articulate but struggles with playground friendships. Will be speaking to his teacher today. Can anyone offer insights?

It sounds like the first time, he did it without thinking and when the other boys cheered him, he liked the applause and did it again.

I think I'd find a reason to introduce myself to the little girl's mum, and then make it clear to your son that you know the little girl's mum and so you'll hear immediately if he does it again.

Could you give him a football or something else to take in for the playground?

I'd tell the teacher, and ask if they'd make sure my DS apologises to the little girl.
I wouldn't mention it to the girl's Mum. Keep it wiyh the teacher.