does your y5 child actively ^like^ school?

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ds2 is miserable at school - it's not that he spends every day crying, it's more low-grade misery iykwim

he says it's boring, they're constantly revising instead of doing new stuff, and nothing good ever happens

if I told him that school had vanished off the face of the earth and he never had to go back there again he'd be delighted ...

he's got lots of friends, so it's not that, he's in the top groups for literacy and maths so it's not that the work's too hard, he's got mild asperger's but it doesn't seem to cause him many problems at school, partly because it's a very familiar environment. I can't get to the bottom of why he hates it so much ...

anyway, ds1 also hated y5, for various reasons we sent him to a school which did 10+ entry so he did y6 at his secondary school - since he moved he's been a changed child and he positively loves school

so what I'm trying to work out is, is it a common y5 thing for children to be miserable at school, or is it something about this particular school and this particular child?

am I making any sense?

just asked DS, he shrugged and said 'yeah, why?'

he has his moments of being miserable if he has a problem socially, but generally loves going.

mine like school and always have (yr 6 and 3)

Both of mine like school - ds (year 4) because he is a simple soul who likes charging about with his friends, who finds the work easy (but is lucky to have a teacher who doesn"t let him coast) and who considers a moment without a football at his feet a wasted moment. Dd (year 9) is a more complex individual but she has always liked the 'stuff' associated with school - the books and pencil cases and merit marks and prefects and so on.

Ds (Yr 5) says that school is boring, but he always trots off happily in the morning, so I think he'll survive Wouldn't like it at all if he was miserable there for any length of time. I found school boring because I had far more interesting (and many more!) books at home and my parents knew more than the teachers, but again that's not the same as being unhappy.

DS (also Y5) hates school, and has hated it for years, for all the sorts of reasons OP lists, plus DS easily gets upset with his friends -- I have come to the conclusion that he is VERY over-sensitive. So was I as a child (sigh) and it didn't do me a lot of good, either.

I am also wondering if secondary school will solve DS's dissatisfaction, or could it make it worse...

I posted a long OP about DS here, if anyone cares to comment!

hmm, I'm hoping that it's the 'fit' between ds2 and this particular school = or maybe it's that now he's at the top end of primary he's starting to outgrow it

I know that for ds1, the problem went away when he changed schools and I"m hoping that going to secondary will suit ds2 better, but we've still got a year and a half of primary to muddle through, and I suspect things are only going to get more 'boring' in Y6 - I fear it's going to be an uphill struggle and I'm worried he's going to be completely turned off education

I find it hard to understand because I skipped off to school every morning (well, most mornings) - and I want ds2 to enjoy the place where he spends most of his waking hours

peanut I've just read your thread - I think your ds and my ds2 could be twins

I'm also mulling over local comp or same independent secondary as his brother. The problem is they're so completely different that I'm not sure ds1's school would suit ds2 at all (always assuming he got offered a place in the first place ...)

ds2 doesn't react well to pressure ... but doesn't do much without ... not really sure what he does react well to tbh

My DD1 totally loves yr 5. We moved her at the start of the year so there may be some novelty value but she goes in as early as possible each day and does every activity she can fit in. Even the daily homework is tackled with enthusiasm - long may it continue .

Did she hate her old school, Kitkat, if so, what has changed?

Please can anyone give me tips for how to get them to go to school without it being a constant major battle zone? At least once a week DS threatens to refuse to go to school and I am ever so slightly at my wits end when he threatens like that.

Every possible solution I can think of is fraught with many shortcomings .