There are very few good, natural spellers amongst children - and, dare I say it, there are very few great spelling programmes and schools teaching spelling rigorously.
It's not true that children will just pick it up over time. Some do, some do in part, and many never do.
I agree that it's great to encourage wonderful creative writing, but the 'infant' stage also needs infant teachers to work hard at teaching spelling, and some of their writing opportunities should be based on structured writing so that the couple of sentences correctly spelt is a regular feature of 'writing opportunities' - not just all 'creative writing'.
The trouble is that teachers are trained to really value independent creative writing at the expense of more structured writing with a systematic approach to teaching spelling (and reading).
So, there are many myths around the teaching and learning of spelling in the same way that there are around teaching reading.
We worry about making children worried about their spelling - but actually there are ways to engage children in their spelling and to explain to them that our English writing code is very complex and it can take many years before people are really good spellers - and some never are. But I would suggest that parents can go a long way to supporting the understanding of spelling to make up for the shortfall of rigorous teaching in school if necessary - and to increase the likelihood of good spelling over time.
To this end, I provide quite a few different versions of Alphabetic Code Overview Charts for free so that adults and children alike can begin to feel more organised in what they know and understand about our spelling system.
The language then becomes, "It that word, we spell that sound as in the word 'catalogue' (or whatever) and then point to the exemplar word on the chart.
It might not be as good as your chosen wallpaper, but it wouldn't hurt to find a place to put one of these charts on the wall, or door, or wardrobe, and to start to work actively on understanding our spelling system and building up WORD BANKS of words spelt in the same way: for example, the 'ir' word bank - girl, skirt, shirt, dirt, fir tree, squirt, third, birthday - and so on.
If you are a parent interested in supporting your child with spelling, please look at the alphabetic code charts via the free 'unit 1' page at www.phonicsinternational.com .