Has your dc's teacher lied to you?

[Peaceflower]

I don't know what to think. My 7 year old ds came out of school crying because he had been kept in over playtime to finish some work.

From my previous posts, some of you might know my ds is mildly dyspraxic and finds writing very hard. We have had a number of meetings with the SENCO and his teacher about supporting his writing.

So I was not very happy that he had been penalised for not finishing a piece of work. I went in the next morning and the teacher said she hadn't kept him in over playtime. I believe my son, but would his teacher have lied

Well, maybe, just maybe, it was your ds who lied,

Maybe you could gently ask a friend of his (without making too much of a fuss). It is not unknown for children of his age to lie: my MIL still cringes at the memory of how she went storming into school to tell them off for forcing her precious son to do wrestling. Otoh it is not totally unknown for teachers to lie either: I hope my dd's headteacher still cringes at the memory of some of his statements which proved less than accurate.

Something upset your ds. I'd be having a chat with him to see if you can get more detail/context.

The teacher and you DS may be both be correct, your DS may have been asked to finish a sentence rather than leave it mid way, so would have not gone out with the rest of the class by a minute or so and then gone out. So, both would feel they were correct.

Sometimes children are asked to finish a piece of work before going out. It's not really penalising them: just making sure they're keeping up with the others. It's unusual for teachers to keep them in all breaktime unless a child has been naughty, IME. Teachers know that having a run-around is good for the children, and they want their coffee too!

The thing is, why would the teacher feel the need to lie to you? If he had been kept in then surely she would just tell you, and tell you why.
It sounds like a misunderstanding to me.

Thanks for yr comments. I also think she has no reason to lie to me, but ds is not given to lying. When we both saw his teacher, I was expecting her to tell me he'd done something "naughty" which would have merited being kept in (not that this has ever happened). When she said he hadn't been kept in, I was taken aback. She asked ds to see her at lunchtime to talk about it. Later that day I asked if he'd seen her, he said she wasn't there. As the storm seemed to be over, I decided to leave things.

abride, I totally understand teachers don't want to keep children in as they need a little break. I used to help out in the afternoons and we all looked forward to the coffee breaks!

Am very puzzled.

how strange. Maybe ds was confused

Teachers can lie but it is very unusual, and I wouldn't have thought this was something a teacher would normally lie about.

There was a teacher at dd's first school, year 1, who did lie to me, absolutely barefaced, but I didn't find out until we'd left the area. Unfortunately, on that occasion I had chosen to beleive the teacher and not dd. Cue huge apologies to dd. (You don't happen to live in NE Surrey?)

Is your seven year old a precious first born?

What would the teacher gain from lying to you?

My ds is my second. He is guileless, to the point that family laugh at him.

I think it must have been a misunderstanding, and have decided to let sleeping dogs lie as the storm seems to be over.