Is it 'normal' for Y1's....

[CardyMow]

To seemingly have no clue about sharing/turn taking?

On Tuesday, I helped out on a school trip, and in my group I had 4 DC's. Two of whom seemingly had no idea how to share and take turns, and when they were made to, one of them had a full on-temper tantrum. I had my SN DS2 and another DC who was asd in my group...but it was the other two who were like this.

I have always insisted on turn-taking and sharing with my DC's, despite 2 of them having SN (I don't believe that these things shouldn't be taught to them, even if they are asd, it just takes them longer to grasp it). Surely the 'grabby no-sharing stage' passes by 2yo? Or in cases like my DD & DS2 by 2.5yo? Or am I being odd in thinking that this is an essential life skill that should be taught before pre-school, never mind Y1?

I just want to know if I'm being a bit too over this really. All my friends have 3-4 DC's, and the children have basically always had to know how to share. Does it make a difference that one of the DC's is an 'only' and that the other one's sister is only a few months old? My DD was on her own until 4.1yo, but she stopped the snatching by 2.5yo.

I think its hard to tell from one outing whether the kids are always like that, or just reacting to something you may not be aware of, or just having a bad day.

dd is Y1 and she and her friends are usually great about sharing/turn taking, but if one of them has a new sibling, is overtired, or upset about something they can still have the occasional squabble and regress (I think adults can, too ).

I certainly wouldn't jump to any 'only' conclusions. Some 'onlys' I know are better at sharing than those who never feel they have enough because they have loads of sibs. Really varies.

IME on Y1 school trips, girls tend to scrap less than some of the boys, but generally most of the class (34 of them, 2 teachers) behave very well out of school.

By Yr1, they should all know how to share and being an only shouldn't make any difference, as at school they have to learn to share regardless. Possibly a school trip is an exciting day so they were behaving out of character because of that? Or maybe you just got lumbered with a tricky bunch.

I did get stuck with some,err, more challenging children......One of them my own (asd with muscle probs) and another with asd. I don't think the tantrum was out of the ordinary for this girl though, a TA had to step in to defuse it!