Do you think "loud children" are a bad influence?

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I have read several threads recently where primary parents say that they do not like the friends of their dcs are they are "loud" and a bad influence on their children.

Of course this is sometime true but I get the feeling that this is a general impression irrespective of what the child is actually like.

Would you as a parent prefer that your child kept away from loud, mouthy children and if so why? Would you prefer them to be friends with quiet and shy children?

I have 2 dds who i would describe as articulate, confident and polite . They are full of noisy games, imaganitive play, and fun. They love to sing and dance and I can see this would come over as loud. Interestingly as seems ot be the casefor lots of other posters both my daughters are very popular in their class, get invited to all parties going and other parents genuinely seem to like them. dd1's BF is a really quiet , quirky individual and they do seem an odd couple but hey opposites attract ! I am proud of them and love that they are "normal" noisy children , except when they are trying to outdo each other in the shouting stakes to get attention

I don't think 'loud' per se is the problem (although I admit I don't actually like a lot of noise, and therefore dislike loud children)

However when I think of the DC's 'loud' friends there usually seems to be one of a number of other traits which accompanies the 'loudness' which I find I dislike, so e.g.

• silliness/mucking about/ being oiut of control & doing stuff which I think is likely to end up with someone being hurt, or something getting broken. So e.g. playing football in the living room, or bouncing on the sofas. This is LOUD = BOISTEROUS

• being over-bearing - constantly bragging/talking about oneself

LOUD = BORING & SELF-CENTRED

• being rude. Talking over others. Interrupting or belittling my kids when they speak . Answering back or being cheeky/rude. Speaking inappropriately to adults/teachers etc.

So yes, in a sense, I WOULD say that these children are a bad influence on my DCs.