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part time hours in reception

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jaded · 10/01/2010 19:33

DD is not 5 until the end of April and I am keen that she stays part time at school until she is of the compulsory age. She is finding 3 full days and two half days very tiring (only started doing this during the last few weeks of term) so I don't think she is ready for a 32 hour week (what four year old is?). Also she is not finding the afternoons (or much of it, truth be told) that stimulating and we do lots at home anyway. I even think the hours she is doing now are too much for such a young child and am considering her doing less. My question is_ if you had the choice, how many hours would you have your child in school? Do you think the 32 hour week is too much for four and five year olds? Do you think it is right that the teachers see more of your child than the parents? I feel that four and five year olds still need a lot of contact with their parents and we should be their role models. They are still very young children and the first six years are the formative years - very important to get right!
I think these years should be about building self esteem and confidence and teaching children how to interact with other children (sharing, playing together and looking after each other). The emphasis should be on the emotional and social skills needed for children to become happy, well adjusted adults with curiosity and a love of learning. Unfortunately the focus is on reading and writing in this country and there is little time for children to do much else. Therefore I am going to have to help my daughter with these skills outside the classroom!

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asdx2 · 12/01/2010 22:48

Yes she is very happy and now in year two. She has strong friendships that were never affected by her being part time.
The foundation teacher was very supportive of me sending her part time and would suggest occasionally to other mothers an early finish when their child seemed really tired.
I knew most parents didn't do part time and the head did initially try and "sell" me full days because another child who had done it years previously hadn't done so well academically.
But I was confident it was right for dd and head did eventually agree that dd had benefited from the slower start.
I would always say trust your instincts you know dd best and what is best for dd.

jaded · 12/01/2010 22:59

I have always felt that DD is too young to be in a formal setting for 32 hours a week and I spent months agonising about whether I would send her to school or not. I suppose I've felt a bit of pressure from her teacher who informed me that the children were taught phonics in the afternoon. To be honest though, I am not concerned with that at the moment. My daughter will learn to read when she's ready, not when the school demand it! I don't think her friends would worry about her doing 2 days and I am getting used to parents' comments! Was your DD reading at the end of reception? Is that the aim for this year? I just don't understand what the teachers are trying to achieve here. You are lucky the teacher was so supportive. My daughter's teachers were pressuring her to try afternoons and that is partly why I relented and she is doing three full days. BUT it is too much for her. She is such a different child and her happiness is very important to me.

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cat64 · 12/01/2010 23:11

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asdx2 · 13/01/2010 06:28

Dd could read better than all her classmates at the end of reception and still can tbh. It was most definitely learning through play at our foundation there seemed to be very little formal learning from what I could see although I suppose there must have been because dd learnt to read (I did read a lot with her at home too. I didn't teach her to read just to love books)write simple sentences, spell the cvc words as well as phonics and do simple addition and subtraction.
I think what influenced me was probably having older children who started nursery at 4 and school at almost 5 as was the norm then. It seemed early enough for them and I thought it early enough for dd.
I am not convinced that children need to be in formal learning so early I think there is a lot to be said for individual attention from a parent if the parent is able and willing.
I wouldn't say that dd stood out by being part time. I think at that age children just accept whatever as the norm at that age. I doubt now that the others remember dd went part time although dd does reminisce about the places we went and the things we did and we try to fit her favourites in at weekends and holidays.

Runoutofideas · 13/01/2010 09:51

Maybe there is a certain amount of jealousy from some of the other children, which has resulted in the nasty comments. That's horrible for your daughter to deal with. My dd1 had it a bit in pre-school, where she was in a close friendship group of 3 and they often paired off leaving one out. One girl was very competitive with the others resulting in comments like "my bike is pinker than yours", "you've got trousers on, I only like skirts" in a vaguely aggressive tone. Luckily they went to different primary schools so this has now stopped. Girls can be pretty nasty to each other, for no apparent reason. Maybe the teacher might have some tips on how she can stand up for herself against this sort of thing a bit more. I don't know what to suggest really, i only told my dd to say "I don't like it when you say that" but i'm not sure it got her very far...

jaded · 13/01/2010 15:02

Luckily my DD doesn't care about 'standing out' from the crowd, she does her own thing! She doesn't keep disappearing off - she has two half days a week - what's the big deal, Cat64? The other kids may feel jealous but that doesn't make it alright for them to exclude her - she has friends who don't make an issue of it - they are the ones who count!

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jaded · 13/01/2010 15:22

Runoutofideas - Yes, will talk to teacher about tips on standing up for herself. Hope it improves for her. Girls can be quite cruel at this age.

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cat64 · 13/01/2010 16:39

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jaded · 13/01/2010 17:15

Calm down, cat64! You are on the defensive a little, I think. I agree it may be an issue if she's missed out on learning a letter that afternoon but DD's teacher has said the letter is introduced on Mon and then the children work on it during the week. On Friday afternoons her teacher isn't there anyway. Thanks for your thoughts.

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