Parents Evening - I'm a bit narked

[Addictedtothepc]

Was informed by a close friend this evening that my child was discussed with her in relation to her child helping him out too much before attending to her own work.

I'm a bit about my ds being mentioned at all with another parent.

We had the Reception teacher a few years tell us & name another child that my ds had brought out of his shell after sitting in a corner ignoring everyone for six months.

Is it normal for teachers to discuss/name other people's kids if there is an interaction that concerns both?

If the communication is likely to go further (eg written warning concerning an incident where a number of children were involved - may eventually be passed to governors etc) then your concerns may be valid, but honestly, are you really saying that the teacher can't say the name of another child to you?

If the teacher was saying, look, when your child and XXX child sit together they don't learn to the best of their ability, but I'm not going to divulge the name of the other child because it is top secret and if I revealed it to you I would have to kill you...do you think that would be effective? I suppose you could go home and say, right, DC, you must not sit next to anyone because when you sit next to mystery student you aren't doing as well as you can.

Perhaps parents evenings should be held like catholic confessions, in total anonymity, with the teacher whispering from the other side of the screen...

OK, rant over.

The teacher deals with a whole class of children day in, day out. It would be surprising if she didn't mention one or two of the others occasionally, when relevant. As long as it's not personal stuff, does it really matter?

your child is not in isolation when at school. The children they interact with both workwise and whilst playing will have an impact on them.

It is normal to mention a child that is involved in your child's daily life. Not allowed to discuss personal stuff and for one i like to know who my child is interacting with, because half the time she 'forgets' who she has played with.

IME it is normal for some teachers. Ds1's teachers never did this but ds2's Reception teacher told me not to encourage his friendship with a particular child - ds2 was very unhappy and mostly played by himself but idolised this classmate. And now his Y1 teacher has also told me how he interacts with some particular children who try to make him do naughty things.

Would you have felt the same if it had been your child doing the helping and the other one being assisted?
It might be that your friend's child is a bossy little madam who doesn't leave other children alone to manage and insists on 'helping' regardless of needs or wishes.