how to help DS not attention seek in Yr1?

[plus3]

oh where to begin....

WE have had on/off talks with DS teachers since reception. Mostly regarding his boisterious behaviour towards other children (reception) and now attention seeking behaviour in the form of making noises (humming, clicking his tongue etc) His teacher says that she ignores it, but he just gets louder, which is why she thinks he is attention seeking, rather than doing it absentmindedly.

She is also concerned that he is lying...told a story today about his friend spiting at him, when both boys challenged DS said he made it up. He couldn't tell me why he did this. He also apparently takes things to put in his draw.

He is also a major fidget, which no amount of asking him to sit still works.

She is concerned about his lack of eye contact - and that it can take him such a long time to complete a task.

At home he is busy, but can sit still. He does any homework (spellings or maths sheets) without incident, and we certainly don't seem to have a problem with eye contact. We have on several occassions spoken about lying...but mostly seems to be 'no I didn't do that' when we know he did.

Sorry for the long post. I just don't know what to do. DH and I are going to have another formal meeting with the school - the first one was suggesting he had poor levels of concentration....now they are suggesting it is all attention related.

Any advice would be gratefully received.

I've not used the Aston Index but understand it is a series of tests which can be carried out by a class teacher to identify strengths and weaknesses in order to develop a strategy to support the child.

Thanks again mrz. Sorry plus3 for hijacking. Sounds as if the Aston Index might help but not be sufficient to identify if ds as processing issues (which is what the teacher suspects). I was very interested in the WISC-IV but see it is for minimum age 6. Ds is 6 just before the end of the school year so no use for us at the moment.

MollieO I don't feel hijacked!

I had another chat with the teacher yesterday and I'm not sure if she really knows what to think. In one breath she wants to refer DS to a 'specialist teacher' along with some other children in the class who would focus on interacting with each in a more positive way.

We then talked about the fidgeting and she suggested that maybe although intellectally very competent, DS is in the older class as one of the youngest children, and that in the younger yr1 class all the boys are complete fidgets.

So as a result we are being left quite confused to whether this is a serious issue or if it is really just a bit of emotional immaturity.