What should I expect for ds who is quite ahead of general reception curriculum, what's best practice?

[themumfromdelmonte]

It's a naff question I know. I've even name changed for this.

Ds is in reception. He can read at about ORT level 2. He is at about level 6 in reading on the EYFS stage early learning goals, spells stuff, level 8 for numeracy (can add, subtract, count to 200, 1 less than, 2 less than a number and all that)

Writing is about average and not his thing and I don't persuade or push him with that as it's ok.

So other than writing and having a lovely time playing unless there is some form of differentiation he isn't going to learn much new that's academic this year at school. I know he will learn social stuff and general life stuff and how to be at school (although the latter comes naturally to him as he is quite mature according to the staff).
There are no reading books being sent home. Tehy are doing first phonics slowly.
He's having a lovely time playing, isn't bored at all.

Some of you will say that's all that is important. I am not a pushy mum, really I am not. BUT if all children are meant to matter and progress in reception, even if it's via play, how can I ensure my ds progresses too?

What works well at this age in this situation?

Mixing in with year one for some lessons? Differentiation in the classroom (and how can this realistically be done in a way which is more than an extra question for ds and his type - I assume he isn't the only one who is at this level).
Accepting he won't learn much in literacy and numeracy at school?

I think EYFS has completely thrown some teachers they are frightened to "teach" IMHO we need to find a balance that suits the child. A few minutes each day learning to read and write is very different from sitting in rows in silence. KS1 shouldn't crank the pressure up as has been said because children should have the skills and the independence to use them.

Completely agree re the some teachers being thrown by EYFS idea. I suspect that's what's happening here.

I've been thinking about this and decided I want to ask the teacher if they can spend 10 mins or so now and then with ds reading. I don't mind at all if this is part of a group with others who can read.

How should I go about this without annoying the teacher or appearing pushy??

I think it's personally reasonable that he should be doing something occasionally that is pitched more at the level he is at. Even in reception where it's play based.

The teacher has commented that she can't ask them to do anything and it all has to be child led so not sure how that would work if ds doesn't beg her to read with him? He does enjoy it though.