My 4 year old says that a bigger boy at school was kicking him.

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He says there is a naughty boy at his school. On Thursday the naughty boy told him he was going to squash his head. On Friday the naughty boy was kicking him in the playground while the teachers were having their lunch.

He pointed the boy out to DH and told him at school pick up. DH spoke to his teacher who assured him that on Monday he could point him out and they would sort it.

I asked him later what he did when the boy was kicking him and he said he shouted, 'YOU'RE STUPID' which later turned into 'i smacked him in the face'.

He says the other boy is older and probably about 30.

What on earth do you do when you just don't know what's happened?
He seems more angry and annoyed than upset.

What now? He only started school about 4 weeks ago and he's already attracting the attention of a bully!

yes, we've since told him to tell a teacher or any adult the next time. and his teacher told him he'd done well to speak up.

i don't think it's odd that he should tell his dad rather than his teacher who he's only known a few weeks.

no it isn't odd. He's only just started school. He should also tell the playground supervisors if he's frightened about what's happening as they can immediately intervene as the teacher will be after the event.

Tbh, he sounds quite tough already!

Ok, so 4 year olds are annoying sometimes, does that mean it's ok for a bigger kid to kick him?

No, it's not okay but it's not okay for you son to be annoying either (if that is what happened). In my DS's case it was weeks of annoyance and he had had enough.

Just because they are bigger it doesn't make them a bully.

Is he bruised?

Sorry, I hadn't really thought about the just starting school aspect. Ds went to nursery so was used to telling a teacher there if someone did something to him so it was automatic for him to do the same when he was in reception last year. It was a bigger boy who picked on him. Ds is tall for his age but nowhere near as tall as the other boy, who was in the same year. So bigger doesn't always mean in an older year.

He's always bruised. He's a four year old boy.

(didn't mean that aggressively mollie! Mine were also used to nursery beforehand!)

So, a teacher asked him to point out the boy at play time today. The teacher had a word with him and at lunchtime the boy was, in DS1's words, 'Really nice to me and now we're friends'.

All is well.

Until the next time of course foxinsocks!

In fact, if anything, it's helped DS1 to trust in his teachers to sort things out, so i suspect he will tell them sooner if anything else happens in the future.

'So, a teacher asked him to point out the boy at play time today. The teacher had a word with him and at lunchtime the boy was, in DS1's words, 'Really nice to me and now we're friends'.'

Well done to minidragon.
Sometimes being identified and spoken to is all it takes to squash a potential problem who thought it was unobserved. And now knows it's being watched.

lol yes!

but as you say, he now knows the teacher will act. It's so so important this and I'm really pleased the school dealt with it this way (calmly and obviously it seems both boys happy and no big scenes etc.!)

hooray for mini dragon and the school

stop wearing your glasses now so you don't spot the bruises