Hand holding for parents of Reception children not settling well

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My DS1 (4.4yrs) started reception yesterday and had to be prized off me by his teacher whilst screaming and hitting her. Needless to say I was distraught (and also a bit embarrassed if I'm honest). Today was a little better but still had to hand him over to TA who had to carry him in crying.

Thankfully he is fine once he's in there and comes out happy but I was just wondering if anyone else having trouble wanted to hold hands!

All my friends' DCs are excited and can't wait to get in there.

As i nanny i often "didn't hear" the "we'll take DC now" as DC was my responsibility and i wanted to know that DC knew what to do / where to go etc so i could then truthfully tell mum and dad how DC was at school. Yes some teachers / TA's may get huffy but they will get over it and if DC / your DC is content then their job is made much easier!

Acinonyx - I know loads of kids who also hate handriers, I've been sending dd with a tissue in her pocket to dry her hands on instead. Stupidly it took me ages to realise she's scared to go in the toilets because of the noise. Taking alternative snacks (even fruit) is discouraged but if they don't like the choices it seems a long time to wait til lunchtime at 12.15. Am going to have a word on monday I think. Is it just me or does tomatoes as a snack to have with milk seem a rather bizarre choice? Healthy I know but doesn't seem to go with milk!

I was just saying this to dh - how many adults would have a tomato as a snack? I like tomatoes but I wouldn't want one as a snack - they must be relatively cheap.

Relief!! It's the weekend . Ds went in crying still on Friday, but he did tell me 'Mummy, I didn't cry for very long' on the way home - though he still cowers at the word 'school'!

Noy sure if having two days off will help or hinder at this point but at least it gives him a break and some fun - he's still telling me it's boring. However, the other children have been talking to their parents and it seems they've been up to all sorts!!

I had a long chat with him about it afer a couple of days but since then, I'm trying to take a more casual approach and not labour the point. When he says I don't want to go or starts to cry I say 'Darling, I know how you feel as we've talked about it and I do understand - come on let's get ready'. I'm trying not to ignore his feelings but I don't want to feed into the anxiety too much.

It's mentally exhausting!!

Hi ladies how did you all get on this morning? Our morning started well, over the weekend I told dd she could have packed lunch rather than school dinners if she preferred. They are full time this week, after there being little choice for her at snack time I think it's put her off dinners. She was quite excited this morning, packed her lunch together, had tears for the first time when I left her but that was my fault. I normally settle her very quickly & leave, the longer I stay the more likely the tears, today I left her milk money in her book bag so had to go & get that for her & then she didn't want me to leave. So really cross with myself for that. I did have a word with the teacher about the hand drier situation & she's going to take her & show her that it's not too scary. I was almost on tears, she cried for weeks at preschool & it didn't bother me but she just looks so little & vulnerable it upset me

I think I better join this thread. Am sad for others that their lo's are not settling and hope that things settle down for the children.

My dd is really struggling with school, she says she has no friends (I know children fall out all the time and then are the best of friends again later).
She went to the preschool attached to the school, but a few of her friends from there went elsewhere, in particular her closest friend. Therefore she thinks her friends are elsewhere.
DD is very quiet and sensitive and I cannot find out what she has done at school as she doesn't want to tell me.
I am hoping to catch the teacher tomorrow in the hope she can help put my mind at rest a little but I fear they may think I am neurotic as I can barely stop crying at the minute.

I know that dd will not want to go again tomorrow

Hormonalmum - I know how you feel, it's so hard watching our lo's go through this alone isn't it. My dd is very quiet & sensitive too, & apparently plays with no one. Her school didn;t have a preschool attached so I figured they'd all be in the same boat. Didn't consider the fact that loads of my dd's class would be related (cousins, step cousins etc) & she really feels left out - now I know one of the disadvantages of living in a small town, I'm not from here so no relations just a few mums to polite chat to. It's early days for them & I'm sure (fingers crossed)that they will settle in soon. I've been very emotional today after a very tearful drop off at school this morning. Hope your dd has a better day tomorrow.