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The nursery have written a transition document. It portrays my PFB as a total nightmare. Should I withhold it from his school?

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nevergoogledragonbutter · 03/07/2009 19:03

Some 'highlights':

"Sharing is somtimes a problem and he can become sulky when reprimanded. However the episode is soon forgotten and no grudge held"

"He has a wide and varied vocabulary enabling him to express himself in an authoritative manner"

"In the sandpit, he is the architect and uses a clipboard to make notes" - why can't he just build sandcastles like the others.

There are other nice stuff about having a great imagination and enjoying role-playing with his friends.

But shouldn't the teacher find out about his moods and bossyness for herself. I know it's not a dreadful report but it does make him sound a bit obnoxious.

PFB.

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StealthPolarBear · 03/07/2009 19:32

He is probably digging a tunnel to the outside world...

piscesmoon · 03/07/2009 19:48

He sounds fine to me! I thought it was going to be dreadful. It will give the teacher a good idea of what she is getting!

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nevergoogledragonbutter · 03/07/2009 19:59

oh and,

'He may find the new routine difficult as first and be reluctant to join in, but should settle'

so, teachers don't label the kids right from the start???

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Tambajam · 03/07/2009 20:03

I think those are POSITIVE comments. Pass it on.

MangoJuggler · 03/07/2009 20:04

read my first post again DB and

This is so not a bad report, honestly

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nevergoogledragonbutter · 03/07/2009 20:05

i need a mantra.

"he will grow out of this, he will grow out of this, he will grow up to be kind and sharing and not an architect"

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elliott · 03/07/2009 20:10

I think you are being way over sensitive. I guess its the first time you've had a report on him? I'm afraid you are going to have to get used to honest appraisals. It would be no use at all if it just said 'X is wonderful and has no unique characteristics or personality traits...'

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nevergoogledragonbutter · 03/07/2009 20:16

you're right. i would stamp my feet and say, 'yes he does, he's a nightmare at home' - he corrects my pronunciation because i have an accent, and can tell me when it's bin day.

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plimple · 03/07/2009 20:40

I think you've secretly posted this to tell us how clever and funny your ds is!
If you haven't, then as that's what it makes us think he is that's certainly what the new teacher will think about him.

Pyrocanthus · 03/07/2009 20:46

I like him already, I'm sure his teacher will.

blithedance · 03/07/2009 21:51

I've got DS2's transfer form at the moment - it's so bland and minimal I hardly recognise him at all. I suspect reception-teacher-to-be already knows him better from the induction afternoons.

mumeeee · 03/07/2009 22:44

That report sounds great. There is no need to worry. I laughed at him using a clipboard.

cornsilk · 03/07/2009 22:47

He sounds fab!

piscesmoon · 04/07/2009 08:05

I get the impression that the nursery staff like him-and as a teacher I would look forward to meeting him!

Littlefish · 04/07/2009 08:41

If I was his receiving teacher, I would be delighted to get a report like that about your ds.

It tells me exactly what I need to know to make sure that he gets settled as quickly as possible. I know what he might find difficult, and those times when I might need to watch out for the more reticent members of the class.

It's an excellent report - so much more informative than all the "can count up to 10" stuff.

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nevergoogledragonbutter · 04/07/2009 09:25

lmao at gingerlyjnr's elvis impression.

thanks everyone. your comments have been helpful.

i think the main issue, is that i do spend a lot of my time rolling my eyes and thinking how overly dramatic and bizarre he can be. but as his mother i can feel affectionate about those idiosyncracies.

my concern is that his teacher has no reason to see these characteristics in a positive light and may view them as obstacles to her plans for the day.

ok, i'm being PFB. i know that. but how can i not worry? tis my job isn't it?

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piscesmoon · 04/07/2009 10:41

It is the little idiosyncracies that make teaching worthwhile!

StealthPolarBear · 04/07/2009 10:50

Well the rest of us do so I don't see why his teacher shouldn't.
Of course he'll grow up to share! It's something he's currently learning at home and will learn at school - DS used to bite but has now learnt it's not acceptable! We're still working on sharing

AitchTwoOh · 04/07/2009 11:16

db he sounds brilliant.

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nevergoogledragonbutter · 04/07/2009 19:22

aw, you all make him sound lovely.
he's really not, but i appreciate the kind words.

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roisin · 05/07/2009 20:49

nevergoogledragonbutter - I just have to tell you my story.

My pfb had a hideous report from nursery, there was something really negative in every single section - mainly about his behaviour and lack of sociability. It made him sound like a monster.

When he had his settling in meeting with the new teacher I asked if he'd seen this report. He rolled his eyes and said yes, he thought it was very unprofessional of anyone to write such a negative report about a 5 yr-old. He told me he'd had a word with the HT and they had 'lost' the report and it wouldn't be kept in his file

That was 7 years ago. ds1 left that primary school with the highest possible grades in SATs (5as) and apparently a model pupil. He has made a great transition to secondary and is really thriving there too.

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nevergoogledragonbutter · 06/07/2009 17:13

That's great roisin.

I did run it past a friend who is a primary teacher and she said she would not pass it on as he's only 4 and in her mind it was a bit harsh.
She was more offended by it that me.

I will probably pass it on but would like to discuss it with his teacher too, just in case it's the first 'truthful' report they have recieved.

FWIW i witness a lovely moment of sharing with his friend yesterday and thought, he can share, he just is choosy who he shares with. No bad thing in my experience.

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