Bullying Advice please

[SingleMum01]

hi, I posted a couple of weeks ago that my 6 year old had been smacked on the face on 2 occasions over 2 days at his afterschool club. The first time, the boy adamently denied doing it, the second time there was a mark and the boy admitted it. The parents were told by the afterschool carers.

This week my boy has told me he's been smacked on the face again in playtime - resulting in him crying and an older girl taking care of him. He was still crying when he went back in to school and told his supply teacher what had happened.

This boy has also smacked and pushed other children.

Am I right to ask for appointment with my boys teacher. I don't know what the school will do, at the very least I want them in separate registration classes next year(although they will probably be in the same maths/language classes as they are of the same ability).

The bully has previously verbally said not nice things, ie, so and so isn't your friend anymore and I've told my boy to ignore him, but I feel its reached another level now.

Advice please!!!!

I would flag it to the teacher and let her know you are ware of what's been happening. She may already be aware of what happened after school. I don't think the comments are any big deal as they are the regular bitchy comments many kids say to one another and wouldn't constitute as punishable. However, the physical stuff is and should be stopped. Did your son say why he was smacked in the face?

That's what I thought about the comments, they've been going on since nursery but I've just told my son to ignore them.

Yes, all 3 times he's been smacked in the face. The 2 times at afterschool they were sitting down and the boy smacked my boy, so its not as if they were playing rough.

Sounds unprovoked to me. Does the other boy have any special needs as far as you are aware? Sometimes this may explain aggressive outbursts.

No he doesn't have any special needs. Made an appointment to see my boy's class teacher after school today to see if it can be sorted. He got pushed over yesterday by this boy at playtime.

Well, we met with the teacher who was very supportive.

She's going to speak to the boy tomorrow and tell him she's not happy with him and that we've been in to see her. She also spoke with his language and maths teachers whilst we there and asked for my son and the other boy to be on separate tables. She also went to speak to afterschool to ask them to keep an eye out for more trouble.

She's asked my son to let her know if there's any more trouble and asked him to stay away from the boy and not play with him.

I also requested that they're in separate registration classes next year.

We'll see how it goes.

telling him off sounds fine and I'm glad the teacher is going to deal with it

but asking for them to be in separate classes next year sounds a bit OTT

how do you know that he won't have changed by then and it will be some other little boy (even your own ds) who will be in trouble?

my ds is nearly 9, and the way some of his friends have changed is amazing

boys who were jumping on him and knocking him down have turned into gentle and supportive friends, others have developed less pleasant traits

I'd like to think that things will have changed by next year, but the boy has been spiteful to my boy for the last 3 years - only verbally previously so I haven't taken it further and just told my boy to ignore him.

I appreciate that boys can play rough and can get a bit over zealous at times but play is one thing - hitting and slapping not in play is another.

Maybe I am being over protective but I feel it will lessen the situation if they are in separate classes.

Fingers crossed that he does change.

Thanks for your comments and point of view.