What action would you expect primary school to take over this bullying incident?

[MollyRogerslikeanEasterabbit]

Abusive text-messages and abuse left on mobile answerphone from one Yr6 girl to a Yr6 boy?

This is on behalf of a friend. She is going into see head soon. However, I also know the child concerned has been named repeatedly as a bully by 3 other children and seemingly, no action taken other than general class talks on bullying.

What would you be saying to school tomorrow if it was your child?

During school time or not ?

I gather the texts were sent out of school (as they are not allowed to have mobiles during school time - they have to be handed in)

The girl regularly passes notes to him in class using foul language. But the teacher just rips them up without reading them.

Have been there with this, and the school says if it was out of school time then they dont wish to get involved. They just had a word with the children involved and that was it. Was told I could report it to the police though. If the children are 10 years old they are legally old enough to be in serious trouble.

Must add that there was an exclusion at a later date when the child videoed a 'happy slapping' incident (in the year 6 classroom )

The school should have a bullying policy. If your friend doesn't already have a copy, tell her to ask the school for one before the meeting with the head.

I am normally in favour of letting schools deal with these things but if it is outside school and the school don't want to get involved are the girl's parents approachable?

hmmm, I had a horrible feeling that was the case. However, the child has been verbally abusive to the other child repeatedly (with some argy-bargy 'bumping into child in corridors and kicking in lines etc) and the mum felt this was the final straw, would that make a difference inthe way the school reacted, do you think?

Yes, she needs to let the school know the whole story and that includes all the pushing shoving, not writing, mobile messages etc. They would have to take some form of action.

In my experience the Bullying policy means jack shit I am afraid.

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It's very frustrating. Same child has tormented my son for years but to a lesser degree. And he complains to me about it but refuses to let me make official complaint as the child is a bit of a ''golden girl'' at school and when he has told teachers (she calls him stupid, smelly, loser etc'' the teacher just trills ''sticks and stones etc'' at him....

Well, I would want class teacher and head teacher involved. I would detail everything that has happened to my own child. Be wary of mentioning what has happened to other children.
Make sure they know the number and naturw of incidents and timescale involved.
I would also ask the school's opinion on involving the police.

The school should be dealing with it. I know a case where abusive text messages were sent from a year 6 boy to a year 6 girl. Parents were called in and it was sorted. Ask to see the anti bullying policy.

I will pass this on to my friend. Thanks for your thoughts.

I haven't read the entire thread, this is just from reading the OP. I'm assuming I'm the parent of the recipient.
Were the text messages sent during class time? If not, I can't see how this is a school matter.
So what I might do is talk to the school about the problem, but I'm not sure what I would feel I could ask them to do. They might be able to advise about what to do, I guess.

It is such a fine balance, but it needs to be put out to air, with as much attention drawn to the girl as possible, It is often the fact that no-one will confront them that they have the power.

Could you and the other mum talk to Head together? If she does this to a deeply sensitive child, the outcome could be disastrous.

Obviously done with tact anddiscretion, she needs to be made deepley aware thet this kind of behaviour will not be tolerated. If the school refuses to co-operate I would insinuate the involvement of the police.

This is Full Scale Bullying and the school is not helping anyone by brushing it under the carpet. Even she will grow up with warped values if she is not 'bought to book'

It will take a lot of courage for the young 'vistims' of her bullying to stand up, but how many people is she doing it to?

The effects of verbal bullying are every bit as damaging as physical bullying and if the school is not taking a strong line. the council can be made aware that the school is not upholding its anti-bullying policy..

no. my child was not the recipient, my friend has spoken to me about the incident because she knows my son has also been on the receiving end of treatment from the child. I am asking on here, because I want to 'warn' my friend about the school's possible lack of response and why, but I wanted to see what others thought as well.

When DS was in YR7 his school took cyber bullying very seriously even though it was done out of school. Boys involved were put in ALE for the rest of the week, spoken to by the police and then put on report for two weeks.

My DD's primary school also appear to take it seriously as we have had several letters home about some scary chain emails being sent.