Ds is 6 and in YR2.
Last year there were several low key incidents that gave me cause for concern. Three boys in particular were being very rough with him. DS is smaller than average and wears glasses, we went through a stage where every other day he would come home with a bump slip from school, or his glasses had been bent/broken. I spoke to the TA responsible for playtime activities, and this stopped. In all of this DS was never distressed, and was happy to go to school. So I don't think it was bullying, as such, more rough play that got out of hand.
Fast forward 12 mths from there, and it's been happening again. I wrote to his teacher, and this improved things, it's now been 6 weeks since we last had to get his glasses repaired. He has however changed his friendship groups to now include the boys that were so rough with him, and I witnessed them "playing" this morning.
It involved two of them holding DS while the other one thumped him.
I went and retrieved my DS who was still laughing and oblivious to any concern that I had. Another parent came over to ask if he was ok, because just as I intervened she was on her way over to do the same. He was fine. Infact he asked me to hold his book bag so he could go back to "join in".
On questioning him more closely, I found that they play like this a lot at playtimes.
My initial reaction was to go to the school and ask about their playground monitoring policies, but I don't know if I am being PFB about it, as he seems happy. So I have been stewing all day over it.
I know boys will be boys, I have a younger ds too, and they are very physical, so can accept rough and tumble as standard, but I'm not sure about this.
DS has changed over the last 3 months, including these boys in his friendship groups. Now I am afraid that it's been a case of "if you can't beat them, join them".
He is still happy at school and as far as I know he is still doing well, although we don't have parents evening til next week and his teacher is not good with communication to parents.
So what do I do? Am I over reacting? Tell me straight.
Am I over reacting?
mankyscotslass · 17/03/2009 13:53
Ds is 6 and in YR2.
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