My Ds's school has made an appointment for him to see a home intervention worker...

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What are they? What do they do exactly? And are they like social services?

Anyone ??

what information do you have?

I've never heard of a home intervention officer. Can you ask the school for more information?

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I think they exist to liaise between the school & home but it can be for anything such as a child will long term health issues, or a family with a bereavement.

My Ds is 9 in june up until he was 5 he was a normal kid a bit noisy loud was like a monkey always climbing everywhere my mam actually thought he ADHD because he never shut up n never sat still

Then we moved (not out of choice i was pregnant with DD1 was having problems with neighbours in flat above i even got attacked by the woman when 5months pregnant) the council offered us a swap with someone and without checking out the area we said yes because we didnt feel safe and i was worried for my baby turns out the area wasnt so great it was a proper council estate but we had a 3bed house so was chuffed noone was above us

Ds started at the school 2mins walk away n suddenly went all withdrawn and quiet and sulky eventually got it out of him that he was being bullied so went to the school about it and thought it was sorted but its still going on 4yrs later not all the time but every few weeks sometimes by different kids to the last time

Only for the last 2 years his behaviour has changed completly he's loud rude aggresive cheeky towards not only us but his teachers last year his head mistress suggested putting in a referral to the home intervention workers but it never got done but it has this time because hes got worse he's started stealing (food and money) sneaking out the house at 7 in the morning (we've taken to setting our alarm for 6 now instead of half 7 and locking all doors and sleeping with the keys) he was climbing out of windows and running away from us when we went looking for him sometimes it would take hours and its not ideal with 2 young DD's (2 and 3)

and theres also a new baby on the way due in sept and i dont know if its connected but ive been feeling ill past couple of wks due to stress and was actually taken to hospital on tuesday with a suspected miscarriage but thankfully the baby is ok

Im at a loss as to what to do with my Ds i often cry myself to sleep because im so worried and scared that one day he'll leave and something bad will happen ive tried every punishment going all my family has tried talking to him all we get is "i dont wanna talk" "i dont care" "why dont you just send me to a childrens home if you dont like it"

Its breaking my heart it truly is, i just want my cute sweet lovable helpful little boy back.

Well I think they will try and help you and liaise with the school and other services to try and give you the help & support you need. I'm assuming schools have started employing them so it isn't a teachers responsibility to be your contact person etc.

Hopefully this will be a step forward in getting the help & support you need. Have you tried googling to see if it says anything about their role?

lmao i googled it and got my own mumsnet thread

Blimey. Your poor son (and poor you too).

4 years of being bullied... I don't know what that would do to me tbh, and I'm 40.

Would it be an option to home educate him? I feel a bit strongly about this as my dh was bullied and I think was in the wrong school for him.

I hope the home intervention worker, whoever they are, is sympathetic and helpful. I do think as well that you have a right to know who this person is, who they work for and what they are likely to do, preferably before they turn up! Could you drop a note to the head teacher asking for a quick word/phone call about this?

have they got your permission to do this? The7y cant get anyone involved without your authority adn you should have signed a permission paper explaining all about who this person is / what they do.

Poor you. Not at all surprised you're so desperate. I haven't a clue, but you never know maybe they'll be good. Sounds like the school's really really bad though if they've allowed bullying to go on for that long. Hope they help, let us know x

I have an appointment next week to sign the referal forms for it to go ahead i was just trying to get some information on them before hand so i wont be so clueless about it

Don't sign until you've asked lots and lots of questions then. Just make a list before you go so you don't get flustered. Hope it goes well.