Feenie it was just the patronising way you said "we have all patiently explained.." and it IS different from what a lot of people on this thread think.
It's true that because it's not easy, it's value is being downgraded. The curriculum should prioritise it a great deal more than it does. I take the point about working parents.
And no, it's not pushy.. it's nice for children to be able to read. I don't know how anyone can object to this. Although people have been doing so, apparently, for years now and the results are evident, among students, even young teachers, and, whisper it not, even people who post here.
I don't blame the teachers.. I have to say this again. Teaching 30 children where two or three have such special needs that they have a one on one helper with them must be exceptionally demanding.
FWIW I think reading should be the only homework primary school children ever get. Maybe a bit of spelling practice and times tables, but the bulk of that should be done in school.
Obviously am confessing to being aged duffer in all of this: but it was once possible, when it was thought to be important, and it was possible with fewer resources.