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Anxious about settling dd into school.....................

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Acinonyx · 25/01/2009 08:42

Yes, I know it's 6 months away but I'm getting a good head start on worrying about it.

DD, 3.5, is with a CM 3 days/week. I applied to both the local preschools this Jan and they have no places free for the other two days (and CM can't do a preschool run - she already does primary and junior with kids in towe every day).

Dd is VERY shy. I've been hoping she will just get less shy towards school time but I can see this isn't going to happen. She was crazy about ballet and after 3 attempts at classes we have had to give up - she is just too scared to join in .

I'm thinking of putting her into a local private nursery one day/week. There will be 4 kids there going to her primary with her. Unfortunately their preschool day is full so it would be a regular nursery day. Would it be any help at all do you think? She used to go to nursery before we moved last June but was often unsettled there (depending on room, staff etc).

I can see that when it comes to being left at school dd will have a total fit. The settling in period is two weeks, and TBH, if it were longer my childcare arrangements couldn't cope.

Anyone had an extrememly shy child going to school? What happened? Any advice?

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PuzzleRocks · 25/01/2009 14:28

Bumping for you.

tiggerlovestobounce · 25/01/2009 14:55

Can you find someone locally to you who also has a child starting school, and arrange playdates, at least then your DD would have 1 friend.

I think that your nursery idea is good, if you think she will settle.

When my DD started school there were some shy children, and it did take a while for them to settle, but after a while they were fine.

Acinonyx · 25/01/2009 19:20

We moved to this village last summer and while people are certainly not unfriendly I have not been on the local mom & toddler circuit (and we don't go to church)and my mom & toddler friends are in other villages.

I do have a neighbour opposite with 3 dc and her middle dd will start school with dd. I have hardly spoken since the summer and the kids were out in the garden. I took dd over to join in but of course she just clung to me

I'm wondering about ways to get together without blurting out 'can I borrow your dd to make friends with my dd for school?'. Her dd is not at all shy......

I am concerned that 1 day/week is not enough to settle at nursery too and may unsettle her even more.

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