Bit annoyed but I know it's silly...

[debs40]

Hi

This is a silly thing to be annoyed at but I wanted to vent steam!

A couple of week ago the school council at my son's primary school asked for parent helpers for a cake sale from 8.30-10 this morning. It's for a Blue Peter appeal.

My son's teacher wasn't around last week - he's deputy and was covering the Head - so I was advised to mention that I could help to another teacher which i did.

I turned up this morning, I arranged for hubby to take the three year old to nursery. DH works an hour and a half away so sets off around 7.30 usually - today he won't get in until 10.30 as he can't drop ds2 off until 9. He'll have to make the time up as he's a contractor.

I'm self-employed and have a research brief with a deadline of today so I had to re-arrange things.

I turn up and offer help and teacher says 'we've got two Year 6 helping but thanks'.

I just said 'oh I'll get back to work then'.

Sorry it is petty and I know it's a break down in communication beacuse he obviously thought he had no help but it has really put us out and we were running around frantic this morning to get DS1 in school early etc.

Would you mention something so they can be a bit more careful in future or am I just trying to make them feel bad for putting me out??!!

Yes, I would deffo mention something!

DS begged DH to go to his assembly the other morning and DH arranged to go in late. When he got to school, they said it was a misprint and the assembly wasn't till 10.30. DH let them know how he felt

Schools must take account of working parents - it is rude and thoughtless not to let you know.

How irritating, and certainly not silly, my primary sounds similar.

Ds and I spent ages collecting and preparing something for a hands-on display that they said they wanted - only for ds to bring his things home the same day and his teacher to barely glance at it. We ended up making our own at home as ds was quite sad about it.

I didn't say anything, I thought it would sound complainy/churlish quite early into a new school and new term. But maybe I should have, as it's led me to conclude that when they ask for contributions they don't really mean it (unless it's ££), and really it was just a way of conveying what they children were up to/looking inclusive.

Thanks. I should have said something at the time but everyone was coming into class and I was a bit taken aback. Then I got annoyed as I walked home.

I don't want to look like I'm having a go but then I think it has really messed up our day. DH doesn't get back until 7 on a good day, now it's going to be really late.

MMMmm.

Thanks. I should have said something at the time but everyone was coming into class and I was a bit taken aback. Then I got annoyed as I walked home.

I don't want to look like I'm having a go but then I think it has really messed up our day. DH doesn't get back until 7 on a good day, now it's going to be really late.

MMMmm.

Sill question but should I drop him a quick line on it just to be nice but to explain that there was a bit of a communication gap on this, or should I speak to him?

All the teachers have their own email addresses for queries and I think it's hard to raise this face to face without looking like you're having a go or making a fuss

Or would that look silly/cowardly?