Opinion on going to loo

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Just wanted to see what the general rule was on going to loo. DD came home today and said she had got"Oh dear" ...same as "time out "because she had gone to loo before games as requested then needed to go in middle of lesson...which she is not supposed to do. Surely she can't help wanted loo...what do you think....she is only just 5.
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Ridiculous to expect a 5 year old to wait. Surely it doesn't do you any good to hold it in even if you are at a more appropriate age to 'hold it'

This sounds a pretty unreasonable rule for a just 5 year old to have to keep to .

grrrr, i had this with my dd aged 5. They are encouraged to go when it's break time, before lunch and stuff, which i can understand. Yet if they have to go they shuoldn't be reprimanded for it.

it actually lead to my dd starting to have accidents.

I think it's wrong to say those things to a little person. Yet, i do beleive it works, and makes them think more about it. double edged sword really.

In France there is quite a big problem with little girls having urinary tract infections, partly due to "set times" for going to the loo and partly because the loos are shared with the boys and little girls think the loos are too dirty.

My dd (aged 5) has to go when she has to go. I cant imagine she could wait for very long.

Speak to the school & clarify, DD got something similar in P1 (5) and I spoke to the teacher, turned out it was half a dozen all going at once & teacher was getting a bit p*d off. Policy was P1 & P2 could more or less go when they needed and they tried to train them to go at breaks. Older kids should go at breaks but if they need to go they still ask but they can only go one at a time.

5 is too early for rules. They do need to introduce them in time for secondary school, because a lot of teenagers would take the piss (so to speak) and all go at once- or stagger their departures so as to keep the whole lesson nice and interrupted. But Year 3 is quite early enough for introducing gentle rules, and even in secondary you need to be liberal with providing toilet passes for children who really do struggle.

It's to encourage children not to go during a PE lesson. Your child is completely unsupervised if they have to leave the hall/playground and go in to the toilets and could possibly leave the building unnoticed or get into difficulties. TAs in our school do jobs during PE lessons so aren't available to chaperone and won't necessarily be in the classroom either.

Dd (5) can go whenever she likes, they are reminded to go before lunch but other than that they can go when they like.

Thanks ladies...all good advice.....you all make some valid points....understand trying to sort some sort of routine. There are only 10 in class and they have two teachers...3 with games teacher....so someone always free to accompany little ones but will have a word...just to get policy right....have encouraged her to drink water just lately cos a bit constipated so maybe should have mentioned it....just don't want to encourage water infection by her being too nervous to ask if she needs to go!
Thanks Again!!!

If she went before the lesson and still needed it again I can't see how she could of helped it. I could understand if she hadn't gone before the lesson though.