DD getting picked on by an older girl

[thesockmonsterofdoom]

have been in to talk to tteacher today and she siad she will stick withh dd at playtme and find out who it is and deal with it. I am so upset, she has been pretending to be ill for the last few school days and refusing to get dressed and generally not wanting to go.
would it be Ok when they find out who it is if I just batter the living crap out of her?
Am worried that it is my fault as I was looking at dd this morning with her insane curly short hair and her general scruffy look, all the other girls have lng hair in plaits and things.
Apparently it all started becuase I fastened dd's mittens together on a ribbon. she came home one day last term with her mittens broken and told me it was a big girl.
Please tell me I havent made it worse by talking to the teacher. I cant bear this, she is only in her second term of reception.

Oh poor little soul and only in reception too

You have absolutely done the right thing and won't have made it worse. At this age (ie infants) I think the children respond well to a bit of a word from the teacher and this will happen swiftly once they work out who it is.

Also having the teacher to go to at play time is just the right course of action for your dd to be able to take and will make her feel protected and that something is being done about this.

Mine are older and that instinct to protect never goes away. Your dd sounds a little dream with her short curls.

No it's not your fault. Your poor dd. If its not okay for you you to do it is it okay to send my rather boistrous and very mouthy dd round to your area to sort out the older girl? Or her even mouthier cousin?

You won't have made it worse. Primary kids are generally mortifed when some one tells the teacher on them.