Star of the freakin week. Grr.

[DrNortherner]

My ds is in Year 2. He is no angel child, and has been on report for playground behaviour.

He is not very academic and struggles with reading/writing but has tried so very hard recently and has moved up two reading levels. 2 weeks ago he came off his chart for trying very hard and helping others consistantly in the playground. This is a big deal for my ds.

Last weeks, his partner in crime (lots of behaviour problems) finally came off his playground report and guess what? He gets star of the week. My ds has never got star of the bloody week. Ds is quite mifed about this.

Other kids Mum is a TA at the achool.

Nepotism?

Bitter me? Nahhhh....

Just want to bloody moan

God no.
Being on the pta or a governor makes no difference and this inference REALLY pisses me off.

The more i read about star of the week the more i hate the idea.

Don't blame you or DS for being miffed and well done to him for trying hard and being lovely in the playground.

I hate star of the week.

My DD1, well behaved and conscientious, was never star of the week and used to come home crying every Friday, when it was announced. She simply could not understand (and neither could I) how the "naughty boys" would be made star of the week for once in a blue moon demonstrating good behaviour, when she tried so hard to be good all the time. I complained about it, but was not given any explanation.

ANy clever teacher spreads it around. If they don't ask the school for their policy on reward systems.

In 3 years at school my ds has not won it once. How is that fair?

He is 6 years old FFS, surely they can find something he can be a star for?

We were told "everyone gets a turn" - if that were true, what on earth is the point, then? How is that "clever"? DD1 still did not get a turn, it still makes me really angry, she was so upset.

Teachers should be prolific, even and fair over the year with their rewards IMHO.

But in this case, I imagine their logic was 'kid just been punished for behaving badly; punishment has finished; quick and dirty reward for good behaviour'

If your kid hasn't been rewarded at all, you should complain to the teacher, pointing out all kids need incentives.

Doubt it has much to do with the other parent's role TBH.

DD is 7 and a year 2. Every child in her year will receive star of the week at some point during the school year.

Sorry, also meant to add

When DD received it in Reception I was extremely proud. In year 1 I was also very proud. When the certificate came in the post last October (yr 2) and I said to her why didn't you tell me, she replied by saying something along the lines of 'everyone gets it, it doesn't matter'

I would mention it to the teacher, dont directly say you want your child to get it, just say that
" name..thought they were realy going to get it as they have making extra effort with things. Be great if they do.."

I done this with the teacher as she kept being negative about my dd dragging her heels about being unorganised (4 yrs old!) and we were trying to be positive with her and saying "well done...you done really well getting your cardigan on!" etc
when they just kept calling her forgetful, unorganised etc.

ask if they can be more positive with your child and praise the good things they are doing with helping in the playground etc.
as he sounds like he is really helping out!