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Would you have been annoyed with me in this situation (re. friend's child at school pick-up time?)

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onthepier · 12/01/2009 16:58

On Friday afternoon I thought I'd done the right thing, but now am not so sure.
I was picking my dc's up from school as normal when another child came up to me, (I know her mum although we don't see each other that much).

Her mum never picks her up from the school gates, (she's 10 by the way), but waits round the corner in the car a few roads away, + her dd walks round to meet her. Her dd seemed worried, asking if I'd seen her mum as she wasn't sure where she was being picked up from. She said she'd been over to where she normally waits + she wasn't there.

I waited 5 mins, then we all wandered down the road a bit to see if we could see her car, which we couldn't. Her dd told me where she normally waits + said we'd see her car from where we were. I tried calling her mobile + home numbers but could get no reply,

  • hung around for a good 10 mins. or so. Was just thinking about going back to the school, (2 mins. walk away), when suddenly my friend pulled up in the car, furious with her dd. She'd been into the school, couldn't find her + panicked. She thanked me, + kept saying how glad she was to see her with me + they drove off. She said she'd been waiting where she waits every day, (not so sure)!

Saw my friend briefly the next day + she said her daughter's attention seeking at the moment, trying to get everybody involved in her arrangements, (seems strange to me)!

It was only over the weekend, I realised that from her point of view I'd actually taken her child off the school premises + nobody knew. Didn't think to leave a message with the office as I was sure I'd see her mum's car any minute, (she's never at the school anyway).

Did what I thought was right at the time, (was actually hanging around for nearly half an hour making sure this little girl didn't wait on her own), but wondered about other people's viewpoints, was I right or wrong?

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NAB3lovelychildren · 12/01/2009 17:01

I think you did the best you could to be honest. As you say, you were expecting to see the mother at any minute so no real need to tell the school (who probably wouldn't have let you take the girl if you had told them.)

sinkingfast · 12/01/2009 17:01

You hadn't taken her child off the premises, the child always leaves the premises alone.

You did completely the right thing IMO.

cornsilk · 12/01/2009 17:03

I wouldn't be annoyed with you at all.

reikizen · 12/01/2009 17:06

I think you did the right thing. The attention seeking thig sounds a bit of an odd excuse to me though, doesn't sound quite right don't know why...

onthepier · 12/01/2009 17:30

Thanks for your responses. I agree, Reikizen, that the attention seeking issue sounds strange, I know this child + she's very sensible. I don't think her mum was in her usual place at all somehow, this makes me think that she was late picking her dd up, + was just annoyed that she'd involved somebody else + drawn attention to the issue.

Thinking about it again, I do feel I did the right thing.

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