Any ideas how to get 5yo dd to do her homework and reading?

[thesockmonsterofdoom]

she really really doesnt want to. I cant be bothered to fight with her about it as she is tired when she gets home from a long day at school and she is 5 ffs.
Still I suppose if she is supposed to do it then she should.
How do i do it without upsetting her, or putting her off books which she currently loves.
btw we spend hours reading good books and in the library etc.

Homework? 5 years old? Reading, maybe,at that age, but what else does she get?

words, sounds and writing. way too much isnt it.

In a word, yes.

glad its not just me then, I was starting to feel like lazy bad parent and teacher keeps leaving me snide somments in her books, like practise this more at home.

tell them to bugger off! Seriously, they are shattered after school at that age. My dd1 will bearly speak some nights nevermind homework. Any normal parent is practicing words and sounds just as part of interaction, and kids just do writing for fun when playing.

I used to find it easier to do 10 mins reading first thing in the morning when the child was fresh.If she is reading then she at the same time be picking up the 'sounds' and the 'words' too.
i doubt the teacher is meaning to be snide- she probably just doesn't realise how you and your DD are feeling about it all.Could you have a chat ?
Ultimately you are in charge of what your DD does at home.Some years ago I started a teaching assistant course (didn't finish it though. They were always on a bout how they could 'capture time' as they called it when the child was not at school.I think it is all wrong,time at home is fot other things and school shouldn't be hijacking it

weekends when she's rested ? The handwriting thing is all about practise.

And try (even though you don't want to) to be upbeat/positive/thrilled about it cos she will pick up on your ambivalence and you will regret it forever

I'd stop fighting. In fact, I did. I sent in bland little notes in the homework book "Dd tried to do this, but was really too tired". Rub it in that she's tired.

My dd still learnt, has done very well at school and at 12 is taking full responsibility for organising her homework including larger whole-term projects.

It's just not worth making such a young child unhappy over.

|Send her to Steiner!! Just don't do it, write a note to the teacher saying hw is ruining your evenings and so until it's not a battle you're not doing it....
Or ask the teacher to award her housepoints, stickers or similar when she does do it. My ds1 yr2 still fights it but his teacher and I put our heads together and do double encouragement.

Is this the same in all primary schools? it does seem too much at that age, specially if it's making the children un happy.
My daughter will be starting reception when she's nearly 5, a year from now.
When she comes home, I'll want her to relax and just be with her familly. I don't see why they should be so pushed.

Have you spoken to her teacher? When DD1 was in Year 1, she was much the same. Reading was OK, but she had no enthusiasm or energy for homework sheets. The teacher said not to push it if it was causing stress, because that would be counter-productive. Also that it was fine to spend 10mins on it and then write a note saying "we didn't have time to finish it".

Now she's in Yr2, she is quite happy to do it - she just seems to have got into the swing of it. So I'm glad we didn't push it.

Dd is in Y1 and doesn't get any homework apart from reading to be done over the week and 6 spellings to practise over the weekend. That's more than enough.

you can choose what is appropriate for your child. one of mine has always hated reading at home so i never pushed it, just left his book unfilled and told the teacher i wasn't going to force him. he can read really well now, just chooses not to unless it's football or gory. but dd is really excited by it so i'm much more regular with the reading folder....