DS aged 4 has been in a fight at school and he looks terrible [wail]

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Ds (aged 4) came home today with 3 gouges down the front of his face, from forehead to jaw, where a child has raked his nails with some force. They look so sore What makes it ridiculous is that dh & I are in education (dh at tough nut school) so we should know how to handle this but are just at how our little boy looks.

Sadly too, not overly impressed that neither dh or I were contacted, given ds had to have first aid, nor was there any explanation given. My neighbour picked ds up as a favour to me & was told, when she has to ask what had happened, that "we attach no blame."

Dh has spoken to ds who says he and XX were playing, XX hit him, ds hit him back and then ds walked away. XX then ran after him and hurt his face.

Am not looking forward to going into ds' school tomorrow - how do I go from talking about that to then discussing a sodding fancy dress costume they now want last minute? Am seriously tempted to leave it to dh at pick-up time who does "quietly impressive & not to be messed with" so much better.

Am not really going anywhere with this, just needed to offload my upset. Thanks.

Don't think anything prepare you for shock of your little boys face being scraped! Not suprised you are peed off.

Thanks Freckly

Ds is not traumatised, in fact I would say he feels slightly guilty since he knows he must not fight but tell a teacher if there is trouble. I'm trying to do the objective teachery thing but as a parent I'm quietly upset.

any update??

Thanks for asking .

Saw the head this morning who was quite shocked to see ds' face as it's still livid and starting to scab over. I said we needed to speak with him or ds' teacher after school.

Dh came home early since it had been playing on his mind all day and saw ds' teacher. His teacher apologised for not contacting us. They had a number of incidents yesterday, she had spoken briefly with my elderly neighbour who picked him up but she thought later she should have contacted us directly.

Nobody saw the actual incident despite having above quota lunchtime supervision - but ds' account listened to - but ds didn't tell anyone what happened at the time except to say who the other child was (probably because he knows he shouldn't hit back even in retaliation). XX's parents have been phoned and are shocked as this is very out of character for their son too.

Dh was much reassured.

Ds was happy to go into school and we see it as a one off (I hope!) Have no idea who the other parents are (and happy to leave it that way) but there can be no doubt who my ds is at the moment!