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Changing schools at nursery stage

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Novembergirl · 23/11/2008 17:45

Unfortunately, for (good) reasons I will not go into as part of this thread, we may have to change DS? school next year.

DS (who is nearly 4) has attended an independent school nursery for over a year and is due to go into reception next September. The teachers have told us that he plays with all the children and has formed a number of very close friendships. DS is also very proud of 'his school' and feels at home there.

Although we have been reassured that DS' social skills will help make the transition easier for him, we are very concerned that moving him away from his friends will be a real wrench. We would, therefore, really appreciate hearing about the experiences of other parents who have moved a child at a similar time.

In particular, we would be interested to know:

  • How soon your child settled into their new school nursery (especially if it was less formal, smaller and more play-based)?
  • How you handled telling your DC that they would not be going back to their old school?
  • Whether changing nursery at a late stage affected the way in which your DC settled in reception?
  • Whether you kept old friendships alive through playdates etc (and how long these early friendships last)?

We are probably worrying unnecessarily, as DS is so young, but we dread the thought of making him unhappy as he is very settled and content at the moment. Any advice on how best to handle such a big change - if we have to make it - will, therefore, be very welcome.

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frogs · 23/11/2008 17:47

My dd2 moved schools between nursery and reception. We sold the idea to her very slowly and gently, and had no problems at all. They are very young, and barely notice after a few weeks, tbh.

Tommy · 23/11/2008 17:51

I think at this age, they really hardly have friends and they get used to new people very quickly.

DS1 moved from a pre-school to a school nursery and he was absolutely fine. He stayed 4 1/2 terms at nursery and then went to a different school - settled in absolutely fine, no problems at all

blueshoes · 23/11/2008 18:03

My dd's best friend spent much of her early childhood in ft day nursery and then moved to Reception in a primary school. As far as I know, she did not skip a beat.

My dd moved a year earlier from ft day nursery to the nursery attached to a school (also around 4 because she is a Sept baby). No problems. She made new friends quickly and easily.

MollieO · 23/11/2008 21:12

I think it is pretty normal to move between nursery and reception so I wouldn't worry about it. My ds moved from co-ed nursery where his best friend was a girl to reception at an all boys school. No problems on the social side at all.

verywiseowl · 24/11/2008 08:56

WE moved DS from nursery to Reception. 75% of the children HAD been in the school nursery so he was in a minority. IT doesn't seem to have bothered him at all and he has quickly made a range of new friends.

Equally he seemed not at all bothered about leaving his old nursery friends (some of whom he'd known since a baby).

I think it's quite an easy switch and Reception teachers are supportive of new friendships (DS's school have run lots of activities exploring what makes a good friend and encouraging children to play with others they wouldn't normally.

Anna8888 · 24/11/2008 09:00

Just don't worry about this.

My DD changed site between the first year of pre-school and the second year. There were hardly any children from her previous class in the new class, and everything else was different. Honestly, she settled in immediately and it was no big deal.

What's more, this is a school with five parallel classes and each year the classes are "remixed" so that children do not find themselves with the same peers each year. It works fine. Friendships are not deep at this age.

sunnydelight · 25/11/2008 02:54

We moved DD from a school nursery class where she was expecting to move on to reception with her friends to a pre-school in Australia when she was 4 and she coped just fine. Totally different environment, very different culturally and obviously she didn't know a soul. She ran in on the first day and never looked back.

She does still talk about missing her "best friend" 18 months on, but when I say "but you wouldn't know X and Y if we had stayed in England" she understands that and is happy about it. Try not to stress about how your son will cope - kids are remarkably resilient

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