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How to deal with mater of child constatly 'hurting' another..and school dont see it as an issue???

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PinkChick · 20/11/2008 20:54

i have a mindee who is normally quite placid and dreamy..we had 'incident' last week which was awful but very out of charichter..every day since then when ive takne him to nursery i se this other child..she is extremely violent for 3-4 yr old, has tried to grab mindee by throat, pushes him, scrathces him , tells him to hit other children and today kicked him in the leg...obv i am getting in the middle to stop this DESPITE the mum of other child being there EVERY time!..the child seems to tell the mum what to do and i kind of feel sorry for her (Mum), but now me and mindees mum are logging these things to work out his behaviour and after today mum rang school to make app to speak to them and was asked 'why' by one of the nursery nurses (the one we told immediatly what other child had just done)!...mindee mum is annoyed and i ma too, nursery nurse says yes child has hit mindee but he goes back to play with her all the time, so whats the problem!!!!...how can we get across to them this IS a problem and MUST stop!, mindee is getting hit/kicked/bitten almost every day!, sometimes in full view other times in a secret 'place' in playground she takes him too!!!..and too think tomorrow we are celebrating anti bullying day at school! and they cant even stop this!...so what can we/mum say to resolve this???

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PinkChick · 20/11/2008 20:54

sorry about typos

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KatieDD · 20/11/2008 22:54

Ask to see their anti bullying policy and then ask why they aren't adhering to it.
Is it a nursery attached to a school or a private nursery ?

PinkChick · 21/11/2008 09:44

its part of a school.

Just bought mindee a blue anti bullying band to wear, am annoyed at how theyre promoting this today, but yet they wont (or at least not in nursery) follow things up and deal with them

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Heated · 21/11/2008 09:59

A stern word with the nursery manager with a list of the incidents? What are they doing about it? Your concern that it isn't being taken seriously? Impact it's having on your mindee. Do they wish you to document your concerns in writing? (indicating to them it's about to get serious)

The usual approach is to closely monitor the child causing the problems & intervene.

If he's old enough, equip too the mindee - telling him he is to say very loudly, "Don't hit XX, it's naughty"

fortyplus · 21/11/2008 10:05

Tell him to say loudly and sounding cross... 'DON'T do that I don't like it!'

Keep diary of incidents over a fortnight and if it doesn't stop put in a written complaint referring to anti-bullying policy as others have advised.

PinkChick · 21/11/2008 10:07

thanks for that..both me and mum are recording EVERYTHING that hapepns nw and school are aware, i spoke to one of the nursery teachers who was VERY helpful, it just seems like this nursery nurse (who i must add is usually wonderful!) that seems to want to brush it under carpet!??..he's being hit/bit/kicked/scratched every day by this child, thats not jumping the gun asking them to do something !
Am giving mum a print out of my llist of concerns and she is making her own list to take in.

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