If you have a child with dyslexic / dcd difficulties how much info do you give instructors for extra currricular activities?

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dd is 6. School advise she is dyslexic and an OT referral has reported that she has coordination issues too.
She goes to Tae Kwon Do and Irish Dance. She loves both but I am finding that as she has been there longer, the instructors have increasingly high expectations of what she should be able to do. Can I explain her issues and ask that they break instructions into small bits and check she understands - or do I just bite my tongue as they can't be excpected to tailor their classes to the needs of one 6 year old?

How has school advised she is dyslexic? Have they tested her?

And is there a problem becoming apparent at Tae Kwon Do and dance classes? I'm wondering that if they have increasingly high expectations then she must be progressing?

School haven't etsted yet - but probably will in next couple of months. SHe ticks most of the boxes. By increased expectations I mean that they no longer slow things down and treat her as a beginner - as in their eyes she can't be - she's been going for nearly a year!. However in actual fact she hasn't progressed much - she gets confused if she is asked to do a sequence of TKD moves rather than just doing one at a time. In dancing she is expected to know the dance now - as she has been going so long. In actual fact she does not have the memory or coordination to do a sequence of steps without being prompted at each stage.
I do not want her to stop. She does not want to stop. But I also want the instructors to understand and be sympathetic to her difficulties - but don't know if that is fair on them.

I would tell the instructors. When ds1 started his classes there was a space to fill in on the form about whether there was any additional information that the instructor should know about. Ds1 has ASD and difficulties with co-ordination. His instructor has been great with him.

For TKD the instructor often pairs up the higher grades with the lower grades to go through patterns, so that might be a way to help your dd to learn it at a slower pace. If she needs to see the moves many times before picking it up then a few people have put the patterns on Youtube. Ds1 uses them when there are bits that he's unsure of.

What's DCD?

Coppertop - thanks for the tip about Youtube! I know dd will be upset when she finds out 2 boys who started TWD a few weeks ago will go for their grdaing before Christmas. She is nowhere ready. She loves it though - and it is good exercise for her.
Spillage - DCD is developmental coodrination disorder - I had never heard of it until dd's OT referral.
I have mentioned her dyslexia to the TKD instructor - and she does try (if there are some spare seniors around) to ahve someone go over the pattern with her. However, I don't know whether to ask her to slow down a bit when she gives out sequences of moves to do - or ask her to ensure that dd understands each step at a time. It's teh same with dancing. The instructor knows dd has difficulties, but I don't know if I should explain to her how best she can teach her. At what point do you just bite your tongue and let tehm get on with it?

Yes I do give information, usually ask them to let dd watch a few others go first so if she hasn't "got" all the verbal instructions she can pick up visual clues. She didn't cope with dancing but does fine in gym and swimming where the teachers have been very suppoirtive.