DD is 4.4. Started reception in Sept.
She has palled up with a little girl, G. G is making dd's life difficult at school. We have been told by the teacher that dd's behaviour deteriorates when they are together and they are being kept separatein class.
Since Monday, when we started back after half term, dd has been tearful to the point of hysteria at times over going to school. This morning she complained of a sore throat, then said she felt sick, and asked if she could stay off. She then ate her breakfast with no problems... so I wondered if there was something else bothering her about school.
When pressed she said that G is mean to her, pulls her hair and pushes her, tells her one minute that they are best friends and the next that she isn't going to be her friend. I told dd to keep away from her but dd said "I want to be G's friend but I want her to be nice to me". I've had concerns about G before, dd has mentioned her a couple of times, I told dd that she should tell the teacher if G is mean, dd says she has.
Another friend of dd's (A) has been told to keep away from G by her mum - A's mum knew that G and dd are friends so told me about it. Also G's mum has been spoken to about G's behaviour, freely admits it and has said that she doesn't know what to do about it as G doesn't appear to care about being told off.
I told all this to the TA this morning (couldn't speak to the teacher, dd dragged her feet so much that we were late). She said she would pass this on.
The school rang earlier today - dd has been inconsolable all morning - I was in meetings and didn't return the call until lunch time. I am going to ring back at 2 to see if she has settled at all after lunch.
So, if she is still upset, what do I do? The obvious thing is to collect her but I worry about setting a precedent, then I worry about her being abandoned... round and round in circles. I am at work today, CM should be collecting her and I pick her up from CM at 5.30. Getting away from work wouldn't be ideal but could be done... very busy today though (yes I know long posts on MN don't help but hey ho).
Am I abandoning her if I don't go? Mollycoddlig her if I do? Arghhhhhhhh. What else can I do to tackle the G problem? G's mum seems nice enough but is clearly aware that G is causing problems in the class and probably doesn't need another parent on her back.
Apols for rambling but am getting this out quickly.
Would really appreciate any advice, TIA