Do I sound like a 'nagging' parent? If not- why does the teacher look at me as if I have two heads?

[tiredemma]

Ds1 fractured his collar bone during the first few days of the half term holidays. Unfortunately it was his right collar bone, and as a consequence he cant write.

I went into school to speak to his teacher on monday and she said, no probs he can do work on the PC. Ds has come home from school the past two days saying he is finding it difficult to type 'fast' and get his work done (not a surprise, I would find it hard to type solely with one digit from my left hand)

anyway- today he was distressed before school and said that this morning he would have to write a 'report' about his school. Anyone who didnt complete the report by breaktime, would have to stay in and finish it. Obviously he felt that he would only write a fraction of what he would normally.

So I go and see the teacher and express his/mine concerns and just got a standoffish conversation about the "Importance of concentrating and keeping up with work- many children have disabilities that impact on their work" and a few other random ramblings which tbh threw me a bit.

I walked out feeling chastised and a bit of a twat. I still cant decide if I am making too much of an issue about it.

I think the proof of this one will be in the pudding. See how she handled it, given the conversation you had with her. If she keeps him in at break etc, then she's disregarded the situation. Then you have a case for complaint. If he comes home and says it was fine, she let him do this that and the other to help him, then she's listened.

i'd let them get on with it...
is he swinging the lead a bit which is why she's got the hump?

Hmm she sounds annoying

If he's getting upset I would happily keep him off or give him shorter days - it's only for a couple of weeks and his body needs time to rest and stress is the last thing he needs

poor old thing!

I dont think he is trying it on- he is in pain and seemed genuinely worried about not keeping up. He is a good pupil who like to 'please' (too much quite often). I just thought that she would be a little bit more compassionate. It wasnt the break thing that irked me, more the fact that he feels it vitally important to type like an RSA trained secratary!

ah MP- I wish I could so that. This couldnt have come at a worser time. Im on bloody placement with arses who have NO compassion at all. They will not allow me time off ( well I can, but they will fail me)- Its so bloody stressful.

How can he swing the lead...he only has one hand to type with and its not the hand he uses to write with.

Obviously he cannot keep up and needs longer.

Agree with doodle, see how it goes tonight.
Good luck.

Sorry to hear about this tiredemma (and sorry to hear about your placement "colleagues" - they sound horrible)

If there is still an issue tonight, could you ask the teacher if you could make an appointment to see her? Is it possible that if you spoke to her on Monday a.m. she was a bit distracted and she didn't deal with the situaion appropriately or communicate very well with you?

That 'many children have disabilities that impact on their work' comment irked me a little.

If your ds had not been able to use his right hand/arm from birth he would have overcome this disability. I have a friend who was (eventually) successful in her application to join the forces despite a birth defect that left her with only 3 fingers. The Army told her she couldn't join because she was 'disabled' Her arguement was that as she had been like it since birth, she hadn't missed having 5 fingers, and could do everything that someone with 5 fingers could do - it was not a disabilty.

The fact that your son is unable to use his right arm for a short time means that he probably feels more 'disabled'. He is finding it harder to cope without an appendage than someone who has never had one.

Using that statement makes me think she hasn't grasped how hard your ds is finding it.

I agree with Doodle - see what she does, then maybe complain.

I'll just wait and see what happens later, no point me getting all wound up about it. As you say onepiece- I probably caught her at a bad time.

lol at mrss. a technical detail. not knowing your ds tiredemma, wasn't sure if he was the sort of ds who would happily swing in circles on his computer chair grinning at the rest of the class, milking the situation for all it was worth and distracting the ones who could still hold a pen... they do exist, ya know... it wasn't meant to be a criticism, i'm sure my ds would love an excuse not to do any work, he's a lazy toad.
as your ds isn't, she was probably just in a flap and will hopefully repent later with the help of a bit of white faced pain from ds. maybe a prescription for painkillers with a note to the school would help?

Just a thought. Could you get him a dictaphone for the next couple of weeks, so that he can dictate his work, and either hand it in in audio format or you could help him to type it up in the evenings?

Honestly, schools. It's not brain surgery, to think of ways to help someone who is injured, is it?!