Special needs support in independent (pre-prep) schools - what is the norm?

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..before I go steaming in? Only for all the small class size and all that it seems to me right now that there are too many children in DS's (Y2) class who, were they in state school, would IMHO have statements in place and would be entitled to a degree of additional support in the classroom.

My entirely selfish concern is that since the school choose to ignore this / leave the class teacher to deal with it, it is depriving the rest of the class of their 'fair share' of attention.

What is the norm? Are parents asked to pay for extra TA support?

While I am at it, there are several parents who, in the state system, would be recieving visits from SS / attendance officers - what action if any do other pre-prep schools take in such cases?

I am genuinely interested in different viewpoints - I would like to know what is normal/reasonable before I voice my concerns to the head.

Should also add that there is definitely the type of parent who believes that because they are paying for their dc's education that they can choose what time they get to school, if they take term time holidays etc. I know of a teacher at another private school who would publicly humiliate parents who turned up late by questioning them in front of the whole class. She annoyed those parents but she managed to change their behaviour and had support from everyone else. She told them that if their children weren't in class in time for registration then they would be marked absent. Repeated absenteeism would lead to suspension, which would mean child stuck at home with parents - the last thing the parents would want!