How long do you give the settling in period before you step in?

[AvenaLife]

Ds has been at his school for almost a week. I know this is a short time and I'm not planning on doing anything apart from encouraging ds to get to know some children, I'm just wondering how long should I encourage him for before doing something?
He used to be a happy, confident (overly confident), boy at his old school with alot of friends. He comes home and says how one child puts wood chips down his back, how all the other boys hate new kids, how they all say he looks sad and miserable, how he has no one to play with etc. I am encouraging him to ask people what they like to play and asking them to play etc. I'm going to leave it and see what happens, he's not been a problem at all in class and his new teacher is really happy with ds so this is alot better than I expected. I'm sure he'll find his feet but I feel sad I've taken him away from his friends, they would have all left next year anyway so I would have had to move him sooner or later. Should I leave it a month or two? (yes, he's my PFB).

thanks.

[LynetteScavo]

Having followed your theads last school year I'm now banging my head on my desk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[AvenaLife]

Lol! Me too!! I have big bruises. It's not him now though, he's being shy !

[LynetteScavo]

I'm sorry, that wasn't helpful of me.

[AvenaLife]

I don't have anyone else I can ask for advice. I'm all alone.

[LynetteScavo]

Personally I'd want to nip it in the bud. Have a word with his teacher, and see if they can do anything to help him intergrate with the other boys.

DS2 has only been at school for one day and I shall be having a word with his teacher in the morning because he was unhappy when he came out of school.

[AvenaLife]

Ok. Thanks. I don't want to come across as the scary mum I probably am.

[LynetteScavo]

I too did not want to be a scary, pushy mum, and sat back while DS1 suffered. I won't let that happen to DS2.

The staff really should be doing something to help you DS. When my DS started at a new school last year, the staff did every thing they could to help him settle in.

[AvenaLife]

I think they are. His teacher's lovely, they little monster who pulled ds off the monkey bars last week and pushed woos shavings down his back was told off by the head. He'd only been there 3 days! (I'm so pleased it wasn't ds, not that he'd do that, ds was all mouth). I'll put a note in his homework diary, they check it every day, rather than pounce on her. He needs to make an effort aswell but I think he's afraid of this boy. ds said this boy kicked him in the testicles but there was no witnesses, the boy denied it and he didn't want to show the teacher his willy.

Shit!

[SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore]

do you any of the other boys mums? one of the more confident boys maybe? it only takes one of them to give your ds a go and they all will.

[AvenaLife]

Yes, a boy from his old school moved there last year, he's younger though. I'm going for coffee with his mum on Monday so I'll have a chat with her then. All of the boys in his class (apart from the woodchip kid) are lovely and quiet. I've suggested that ds asks them to play. I might send him with some top trumps tomorrow.