Is this fair?

[missingthetennis]

Name changed for this.
At our school we have been very lucky over the last few years in that our children have been getting regular cookery lessons from a parent volunteer (in addition to the curriculum minimum requirement). However, there is a child starting at the school with dairy&egg allergies and her mother has kicked up a huge fuss. The parent helper has offered to provide a list of all ingredients used so that the parent can provide alternatives suitable for her child and the school would provide a 1 to 1 helper to ensure the child does not come into contact with the wrong ingredients. Fair enough, I would have thought. BUT the mother has insisted that it is not fair that her child be treated this way as it would be singling her out and that ALL the class should cook dairy-free or not at all. The upshot of this has been that there will be no cooking for the class because of this one mother. The parent volunteer will cook with other classes but never with the class this child is in.
Mumsnet jury views please??

Unless the entire school is dairy and egg-free (which I doubt) I think the mother is out of order. Her child needs to learn to manage their allergies and that does involve an element of being the odd one out. The compromise the school offered sounded quite reasonable, with the proviso that a one-to-one helper probably would be sensible, to watch out for cross-contamination issues.

(We have a nut allergy in the family and DD is not allowed contact with nuts for the time being - teachers have been very accommodating in enabling her to join in with cooking. But I do appreciate that an actual, serious dairy/egg allergy would require a higher degree of vigilance.)