photo consent form - does anyone else say 'no'?

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I said no and then they put my daughter in the paper anyway!

Stick to your guns. All they need to do is put your daughter on the end so you can have a photo with her in and cut her out for any other use.

Im a teacher and we use encourage the children to take photos and videos of eachother as part of their learning, they might then go on to use them as stimulus for writing etc. Its so hard when you have to tell a child they cant be photographed as their parents have refused permission.Trips are a nightmare too-feel so mean asking a child to step out of the way while photos are taken.
If you refuse permission, how are you going to make sure that other parents dont take your chils photo on days out etc ? Ive got lots of random children in the background of family snaps.

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itati - out of interest,what is your objection ?

tbh, I would have no problem with a photo in the paper, but would if names were included. As a child, I was in the local paper, named, and just afterwards my mum got a phone call from some nutter claiming they they had kidnapped me, and was holding me locked in their garage.

Fortunately, I happened not to be in school that day, so my mum knew exactly where I was, but god knows what she would have gone through if I had been at school as normal.

Obviously, this is very rare, but is enough to make me wary.

It is nothing to do with strangers seeing her picture, but keeping her away from the sight of my mother. Justified imo.

For me it is privacy. I am a very private person

Although you'd never guess it from the amount of stuff I tell you lot about!!

but in RL I am very private. I am that way about my kids too. I would not be photographed and named in the paper, and I would not allow my kids to be. I just don't want it, and the fact that other people do, does not make me odd, or anything. It makes me have a different but equally valid pov.

Apuski - something similar happened to me, not with a photo but I'd written something which was published and they included my name and age - some loon obviously looked in phone book and rang my parents threatening to kidnap me, as a result police called and I was chaperoned to and from school for a while... not a good experience.

itati - in that case understandable if there are probs there and actually I can understand the privacy bit too that Hecate says - I don't mind ds being on my profile here though as I feel quite safe among 'friends' but I imagine people could hack into this site and look at them, though I'm not sure exactly what they'd do that for.

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Our school puts photos of the children on its websites with smiley faces over the children's faces whose parents have declined permission.

I don't think other parents need to be told of your decision and if they are it is all wrong imo.

I don't know which parents at ds's school have objected - should be confidential.

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But how can you keep it confidential when you have to exclude a child from a photo? - obviously the child is going to want to know why and they are then going to tell their friends.

And speaking as the person who has to actually do things with the photos, no, I'm not going to spend God knows how long editing little Johnny out of 16 photos of the trip to the Bbritish Museum just so his mum can have a copy with him in - we'll just ask him to step aside, or hide him behind the rest.

If a whole class does not get their class photo in the paper because one parent says they don't want their child in it, then I be a bit annoyed. It would be fairer to keep said child out of the photo that goes to print - maybe that's what they do, I don't know.

One of the parents in my ds year didn't consent to photos because 'you never know who might see it'. We couldn't video the nativity because of it (although I don't know if she was the only one who didn't give consent). There was a similar thing at nursery but in that case the child was adopted so I could see the sense in it.

I will never be able to video ds in anything at school that his year group do but I will have stuff that my dds are in. (lovely nativity vidoe last year for dd1) which makes me a bit sad for ds.

Why don't you want the school to have free advertising?

It always seems really odd to me, my DCs have had lovely photos in the local paper for something good that has happened at school. At Christmas they print photos of all the local school plays, it probably means they miss out on a main part because it would look odd if Mary couldn't be in the photo! I remember being at a school that was featured on local TV, they filmed the whole school in the hall but certain children had to leave first.
Why wouldn't you want the school to have free advertising? They keep scrap books-I think it is lovely.

DD had her photo in the local paper/magazine in an advert for her school adnd also another time in an article about the school - she was ever so please. Neither time was she named.

Had no problem with this at all.

Hmm... just realised that no one in DD's school must have objected to videing, etc. Nativity and other special concertsaseemblies are recorded and DVDs sold. DD loves them.

I don't know of anyone who has objected in our school, and I can well imagine it being a pita for the staff if they did, although I can understand some of the reasons for the refusal.

Met a foster mother on a recent cub trip who was happy for the foster child (from a different group) to be photographed within the group photos, but specified what they could be used for and not used for. Good understanding all round, but if she'd said no to any photos that would have been fair enough imo.

If a parent does object, then I think it's acceptable for a member of staff to ask them why, or to talk through the reasons why, although I agree it should take place privately.

By talking it through, the parent may change their mind if a member of staff has taken the time to explain what the photos are used for and why it can be difficult if a child is excluded in this way (without labouring the point.)

Of course, it may just make the parent more adamant in their refusal.

I do think not letting their pictures be in the paper is a bit sad, unless there are really strong reasons (abusive or violent family members or something like that). Children love seeing their pictures, and I thought it was policy no either to not name them or to use first name only. Where's the harm in that? On one memorable occasion, my dd was in both local papers twice for different activities - she was seriously impressed!

I say no to website use and also named photos in the paper. My reason for doing so is that I do not want images of my children used by those who manipulate images of children in order to create paedophile pornography. I am sad that that is how the world is, but it does happen, and I am not wanting my childrens' faces to be in those photos. So far no school or teacher has questioned it, and it certainly has not prevented videoing of school plays etc. I'm quite happy for photos to be taken and used within school, or even in the newspaper, but the issue is that once pictures are on-line then anyone can use or abuse them.

There are children at my school not allowed to be in photographs displayed outside of the school building or put on the website. We work around it. I have developed quite a knack of taking photos of the back of children's heads now.

In our case the safety of my children is far more important than the enjoyment my child might get from seeing themselves in the paper. I don't see why I should have to justify why to the teacher though, my child, my decision.