My ds has a class friend who is very posessive of him and also a very prone to turning on the tears. I have been aware of this since they both started in reception together. So is his teacher and his TA, although,of course they would never openly admit tht this is the case, they did have a quiet word with me about their 'friendship' and when they split the class {as next year is going to be mixed yr 1 and reception}they appear to have kept this boy- XX- in the class with all the younger ones and my ds with the rest of his friends in the older ones. I could have fallen down at their feet in gratitude at this TBH as this boys mum is also rather 'full on' and very bossy. She keeps trying to forge a very big friendship between us and the boys that I dont really feel is there. I really am not rude but I feel I dont want to be in her pocket - not least because her ds really spoilt and does not play very nicely and I am too busy/tired after school to socialise on a weekly basis which is what she expects.
One time I walked out the yard without waiting for her and her ds and the next day she bawled me out in front of all the other mums for not waiting and for 'stomping off'. She is extremely loud mouthed. I had to get my 3yo home because she wa running off.
Now- I know this is pathetic - I was so embarassed I am literally in fear of leaving without waiting for her and her son- because the next day I get either the silent treatment or oh-so-subtle put downs and comments. I actually have to excuse myself if i wish to leave the yard without her.
Recently my son had won a few little school competitions and she said, 'oh yes, i have noticed you ARE very competitive' to him, but not in a very nice sarcastic way, which peed me off. She brags about everything and everything her son is and does and I never do to her. Not nice.
Anyway, please could you tell me, in light of the above, is it likely my son will be getting into trouble as he claims for refusing to play with xx at playtimes? xx asks him, ds says no, xx cries and runs to whoever is on yard duty. DS then in trouble for making him cry? One of these is head of KS1 who knows ds is finding this boy too much. In fact almost immediately after I spoke to her she split the classes and had a meeting and indicated personally at the meeting she had taken 'our recent conversation into account'.
Things are all a bit odd at the moment as the poor student they have got in there appears to have been left running the class- think regular class teacher is off - and last Friday TA's had them all day which is when latest whinging episode occurred.
There is light at the end of the tunnel as we plan to move out of area next year and never intended this to be the school we stayed at. There have been so many probs with this kid -have been on mumsnet a few times about him- I am ashamed to say the two weeks they were away from the school on their hols were the happiest we have had as there was no x or x's mother related stress.
My ds can stand up for himself (more than me)but would they tell him he has got to play with this kid just to get a bit of peace?
Oh, and will I be thought of as a cow for telling my son to say, 'mum said I dont have to play with anyone I dont want to' as well?
Please I dont want to go into the school re, this (yet again)as I am going to look like I have an axe to grind with this family. Just wanted to know what any teachers/ta's out there think. Thanks.