Should we let DD move into her ex-best friend's Year 6 class?

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DD has wanted to move into the same class as best friend for yr6 as she feels she will be happier

they have now fallen out this week but opportunity has come up that she can move classes.

They have never fallen out before and it seems to be more of a change in personalities from one side. Which happens

but should we now let her move class??

one teacher this week said she was too dependant on best friend and was worried for her mental health so seems strange to now suggest moving her to be in the same class. Maybe they don’t talk to each other about these things.

Any thoughts??

Would I let my ten year old move in to a different class just to be with a friend who she has fallen out with and whose current teacher said my daughter was ‘too dependent’ on? No, I wouldn’t. I’d be a bit annoyed that the school were putting on to you or your daughter to decide.

@SweepSqueaks your correct but I just need someone else to think I’m not crazy.

it seems crazy that in the same week some think she’s other dependent on her others think it’s okay for her to be in the same class

Leave her where she is

She should stay where she is.

Keep her where she is and trust the teacher who says she’s too dependent on her friend. She will have seen them together more than her. Either they’ll make up in which case that dependence could cause issues or they won’t make up and then there will be drama. Or they’ll fall out again and then there will be drama.

Friends don’t need to be in the same class, they should be working not gossiping, etc. if they remain friends they can see each other at break.

Don’t move her. They can still be friends even if they are in different classes, but the chance of another falling out if they are in the same class will always exist and then she will be upset, you will feel guilty , and will have to deal with the aftermath. Y6 is stressful enough without scattering possible land mines around.

Don’t move her. We’ve found year 6 a tricky year for friendships, lots of drama!

Before making any decision, I would check to ensure there isnt other reasons, like trying to escape from a situation in the current class.

I’ve never heard of a primary school giving parents any input on what class their children are in! When mine were primary age it was made very clear to all parents that the school would allow absolutely no discussion from parents about classes. It was a school decision only and children will cope fine in class without their friends, it is good for them to be with other children. Class is for learning, she can see her friend at playtime. Tell her schools make decisions on classes not children or parents and she is fine where she is.

If you are honest, Have you put a lot of pressure on the school previously to have her moved? I only ask because on the rare occasions our primary school has given in it’s been off the back of a lot of parental pressure for their child to be with a friend and they think they know better than the school. I don’t know but I suspect the school ends up having enough and saying sod it, we’ve given you the reasons it’s not a good idea (which they have) but you have persisted and we cannot spend anymore time dealing with it so we’ll do what you want with all the caveats given. Otherwise I certainly cannot understand why, after saying your daughter is too dependant on this friend, that they have offered a move. Having put three through school, mine have sometimes been with friends, sometimes not but I have always backed the school in terms of whatever class they have been put in. Certainly splitting a claustrophobic friendship would not have me moving a child. So if I were you and regardless of why this offer has now been made, I would leave her where she is and encourage other friendships.