Would you raise this with the class teacher or safeguarding lead?

[Sweetpeasweetpea]

Hi,
I would like to share something.
This evening my Year 2 daughter told me that during afternoon playtime she kissed another girl in the school toilets. When I asked what happened, she said the other child repeatedly asked her to "please please " and wanted them to pretend to be boyfriend and girlfriend.

My daughter said she felt she had to do it because otherwise the girl “wouldn’t be my friend.”

I have already spoken to my daughter about personal boundaries and that she can always say no to things that make her uncomfortable.

My daughter is autistic and has ADHD and has an EHCP and only joined her new school in February. She told me earlier that she sits on the buddy no one comes to play.

I am not accusing the other child of anything and appreciate they are very young children, but I am concerned about the friendship dynamic and my daughter’s vulnerability to peer pressure.

Would you contact the class teacher first, the safeguarding lead, or both? I am thinking of phoning the school and then following up with an email.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Class teacher. Don’t over react. They are 6,

DSL here — either would be fine. I would expect our teachers to bring it to me, but I would also expect them to deal with it appropriately.

Your approach is very sensible. We would investigate this and teach both children as needed. It’s not about punishment, it’s about understanding and learning.

Sorry to hear you daughter was put in this situation. She definitely did the right thing by telling you.

Tell the teacher, who will deal with it discreetly with the children involved. They should record it on the school's system, for the DSLs to see.

I'm a teacher. Tell the teacher and they will inform the DSL.