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Year 1 parents evening - disappointing

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bdot86 · 18/03/2026 00:31

Feeling really deflated after Year 1 parents’ evening and wondering if anyone else has been through similar.
The teacher was actually very positive about my DS5 effort, determination and attitude, she said he’s a joy to teach and really tries hard. But academically he’s coming up as “emerging (lowest level)” or “developing” )second lowest level) across the board, when apparently at this stage of Year 1 he should be “secure” in all areas.
I know I probably sound ridiculous, but I genuinely thought he was quite academic or at the very least average. He reads fluently every night (and is actually on a higher reading band than some of his friends who had higher assessment scores than him), loves writing his own little stories, and even chooses to do maths workbooks at home on top of homework.
It’s just knocked me a bit because none of his friends seem to have had assessments as low, and now I’m second-guessing everything. I can’t help but feel like I’ve somehow failed him, even though we do quite a lot at home.
He’s an end of April baby, so one of the youngest in the class, and most of the others are quite a bit older, I’m trying to remind myself that might play a part, but it’s hard not to compare. I know I shouldn’t.
Has anyone else had a child who was below average at this stage and caught up later? Or any advice on how best to support him without knocking his confidence? Teacher said focus on reading. But we do that !

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MyTrivia · 18/03/2026 08:07

I’ve just looked at my daughter’s assessment targets and for English it says being able to use capital letters correctly, write on a line and use full stops. The reading bit is based on comprehension. So a child who is quite fluent in reading might still have a few gaps with comprehension.

bdot86 · 18/03/2026 11:13

I’m aware that I’m being OTT but you have all been so kind, reassuring and helpful. Thank you!

I have arranged another meeting with the teacher this week. The reason I couldn’t get specific advice yesterday was because DS was in the meeting, and I didn’t want him to feel discouraged! Many have mentioned comprehension, this could be it. I will find out more in the meeting.

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sittingonabeach · 18/03/2026 11:23

They are just over half way through the year, why would they be expected to be secure in all areas at this time?

Charlotte120221 · 18/03/2026 12:28

Aww.

Don't worry - if he's reading well and likes learning then you're ahead of the game!

FWIW in her Y1 parents' evening, we were told that DD wasn't even on the scale they were measuring the kids by (!) - didn't stop her - top grades and GCSE and A level.

Y1 is just the beginning - am sure he'll be fine

user2848502016 · 18/03/2026 12:35

He is five! Please remember this. Lots of children in other countries aren’t even in formal school at 5. I do think boys are more immature than girls at this age too, and he is in the younger half of the year.
Carry on with the reading and do some maths games with him, but you really don’t need to worry at this stage. If you do too much you could turn him off learning.

lxn889121 · 18/03/2026 12:59

I would trust your own judgement. If you are seeing him doing well at school, then I would be wondering whether it was more of an issue with his ability to show what he can do in the classroom, rather than his academic ability.

For example, very shy children can sometimes seem like they can't do things because they refuse to show their ability... and easily distracted children can not show their best for obvious reasons.

So personally, in your shoes, I would be focusing on why your teacher isn't seeing the same level of ability that you are seeing.

CaffeinatedMum · 18/03/2026 13:03

My five year old (also boy, may birthday) sounds similar. I feel like this is going to be one of those where we look back on and wonder why we were worrying, and I do think you probably worry more when it’s your first and you don’t know what to expect and their school journey progresses.

bdot86 · 18/03/2026 20:47

BoleynMemories13 · 18/03/2026 05:06

I'm a bit surprised by some of the replies. I feel for you OP. Yes he is very young, but it's totally natural and understandable to be worried if you're told your child is behind at any age. I totally understand where you're coming from with your concerns.

There's a lot to unpick here.

Some children do struggle to adapt to the level of independence needed to achieve in Year 1, so it is possible for a child to achieve the Early Learning Goals in Reception but begin to struggle more in Year 1. However, from what you've said, it is not really obvious exactly what he's struggling with.

Asking you to work on reading, when you perceive your son to be fluent on an average level of book for his age group, does seem quite vague and unhelpful. Could it be his comprehension which is holding him back? Is he able to talk about how characters are feeling and recall the main events of a story in order? Can he suggest reasons for his answers, supported by the text or visual clues? (eg knowing a character is sad because it says they 'sobbed', meaning they are crying. Or knowing a character is happy because they are smiling in the picture, even if there is no reference to this feeling in the text? Can he predict what the book might be about, based on the title and the picture on the front cover? Can he predict what might happen next, after a key part of the story?)

The worst thing you can do is compare to his peers so, as hard as it is, please don't waste your time and energy finding out how their parents evenings went and what level they're working at as they're all different. A child can, for example, be on an easier level of books because they struggle more with phonics or fluency, but have better comprehension skills than another child who is reading harder books. It's not healthy to dwell on the levels of other children in his class though, many if whom you admit are older anyway.

It's possible they have carried out some tests recently and used the data to inform their judgements. Some children struggle to understand tests at this age, or may be prone to rushing, meaning they don't perform to the best of their ability. If they have done some tests and have purely used the results to inform their judgements, rather than considering how the child genuinely performs in class, that could explain why his attainment levels have come out much lower than you were expecting. They're still very young. It's really not the best way to obtain data, but sadly that's school life in 2026 with many trusts insisting their young pupils are tested to secure data.

Another thing to consider is how they're assessing. Most schools have check points for 'on track' for secure for the end of the year. Do they just mean he's not yet achieved everything he needs to be 'secure' at the end of Year 1 (I wouldn't have expected him to yet), or do they mean he's not on track for it at all this year?

If I was you, I'd ask if you can arrange another short meeting to discuss a few things, now you've had time to digest what you were told at parents evening. Explain that you're surprised to hear how he"s now quite behind where he should be, given that he was fine in Reception and you had no reason to suspect he was struggling until now. Ask what he needs to be able to do in reading, writing and maths in order to be expected, and what the school are doing to support him. Find out what you can do to help him at home, asking them to be specific about what skills he needs to work on. Them simply asking you to work on reading at home, when clearly you already read daily, isn't particularly helpful. You need to know exactly what to focus on in order to help him improve. Is it comprehension? Is it phonic knowledge? (He may have some sound gaps to fill. Ask if he's on track to pass the phonics screening in June. If not, how can you help? What sounds is he struggling with?) Is it his sight word knowledge? You say he reads fluently, but maybe he doesn't know as many of the common exception words as they would expect him to at this stage.

You definitely need specifics to work on in order to help plug the gaps and get him back on track. It's definitely possible, as children can make giant leaps in attainment at this age, once things start clicking. Sometimes a small boost of an intervention at school and daily work on a certain skill at home is all that is needed to help get them back on track. Show the school that you are keen to work with them to ensure he catches up quickly.

Good luck

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This is sooo helpful. Thank you! Great questions to ask the teacher.

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JustMarriedBecca · 18/03/2026 21:55

No direct experience here but remember schools will mark kids down in KS1 so by KS2 the school can demonstrate progress of their own making to improve their own scores.

This is also subjective teacher marking. This isn't standardised unless they are doing NFER or equivalent tests (which not all schools do)

OhDear111 · 19/03/2026 08:54

End of April is not younger in the class though. Not sure it’s even classed as summer born. I have an August birthday DC who would be 4 months younger.

I would have questioned the teacher further about reading assessment. How was it done? What is needing more practice? Where is he in terms of maths? What needs to be improved?

The other possibility is that the assessment is very cautious. This is a school by school system and not foolproof. Do they cross check assessments for example? If I’m honest, my dc had some bright friends and I knew she was similar. She didn’t read before starting school, but they did. I could gauge where she was against them - to some extent! Interestingly the brightest were all summer born!

Most dc who are engaged with learning do “catch up”. I would supplement school readers with library books and broaden vocab if you haven’t already. If he’s bored with phonics, and some dc are, get a bit more creative. He enjoys learning so keep him interested.

Piglet89 · 19/03/2026 10:08

OhDear111 · 19/03/2026 08:54

End of April is not younger in the class though. Not sure it’s even classed as summer born. I have an August birthday DC who would be 4 months younger.

I would have questioned the teacher further about reading assessment. How was it done? What is needing more practice? Where is he in terms of maths? What needs to be improved?

The other possibility is that the assessment is very cautious. This is a school by school system and not foolproof. Do they cross check assessments for example? If I’m honest, my dc had some bright friends and I knew she was similar. She didn’t read before starting school, but they did. I could gauge where she was against them - to some extent! Interestingly the brightest were all summer born!

Most dc who are engaged with learning do “catch up”. I would supplement school readers with library books and broaden vocab if you haven’t already. If he’s bored with phonics, and some dc are, get a bit more creative. He enjoys learning so keep him interested.

End of April is basically (almost) in the younger third of the distribution, in a year with an end August cut-off. He isn’t the YOUNGEST - but on the younger side.

bdot86 · 19/03/2026 12:03

OhDear111 · 19/03/2026 08:54

End of April is not younger in the class though. Not sure it’s even classed as summer born. I have an August birthday DC who would be 4 months younger.

I would have questioned the teacher further about reading assessment. How was it done? What is needing more practice? Where is he in terms of maths? What needs to be improved?

The other possibility is that the assessment is very cautious. This is a school by school system and not foolproof. Do they cross check assessments for example? If I’m honest, my dc had some bright friends and I knew she was similar. She didn’t read before starting school, but they did. I could gauge where she was against them - to some extent! Interestingly the brightest were all summer born!

Most dc who are engaged with learning do “catch up”. I would supplement school readers with library books and broaden vocab if you haven’t already. If he’s bored with phonics, and some dc are, get a bit more creative. He enjoys learning so keep him interested.

Yeah it’s weird about his age. It’s single form
entry school, class of around 30 but there are only about 4 kids younger than him. So I do think he’s younger compared to the majority in the class but yes not the youngest. Two of the boys are 7 this summer!

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Tintarella · 20/03/2026 17:59

Honestly OP I have a 5yo in Yr 1 (July born). He doesn't do any of the stuff you say your kid does - maths workbooks voluntarily?! Er no!- and I'm not worried even though I'm assuming there's a chance he may not meet expectations this year. I can tell he's bright, but he just needs a bit more time to mature. At this age there's such a difference between the oldest and the younger ones.

(He is not my first child so maybe that's why I am not panicking- I'm sure I probably would have been with my eldest!)

Melancholyflower · 20/03/2026 19:03

bdot86 · 19/03/2026 12:03

Yeah it’s weird about his age. It’s single form
entry school, class of around 30 but there are only about 4 kids younger than him. So I do think he’s younger compared to the majority in the class but yes not the youngest. Two of the boys are 7 this summer!

Are you in England? Is so, the other boys turning 7 in the summer would only be in Y1 if they have been held back and are being educated out of their year group.

IdaGlossop · 20/03/2026 19:09

This relentless measuring of children and young people so early on has unintended consequences, as OP's post shows. What it can't take account of is that all children develop at a different pace. Your DS will be fine, not least because he has an engaged and supportive mother 😊

Pricelessadvice · 20/03/2026 19:21

He sounds like a lovely chap who enjoys his learning, and you are doing all the right things with regards him reading at home regularly.
He’ll find his stride, he’s still only so little xx

Gagamama2 · 20/03/2026 19:25

My now 10 yr old and now 8 yr old were like this. Very bright toddlers / preschoolers but extremely average, sometimes achieving well below average, in infant school. I couldn’t really understand it. Now the older one is in Y5 and consistently is marked at “beyond expectation”, and the one in Y3 is getting there as well. They both read in bed every night for at least an hour (of their own accord). The Y3 is creative in her spare time at home, drawing and writing little comics and making inventions out of cardboard 😂.

I think the school environment was much harder for them to cope with in the early years than I realised and it took them a while to be able to cope with this plus learning. Both would prefer to be at home learning rather than at school. Both are quite sensitive, emotional, and hard on themselves when things don’t go well. Maybe your son is the same?

What helped was that I didn’t panic when the assessments in Reception - Y2 came back very low. I knew they were smart kids outside of school and believed there was more to their development than relentless maths and phonics. Your son sounds lovely and like he will get to where he needs to be when he is ready. The fact he wants to do maths and write stories outside of the classroom speaks volumes

2026Y · 20/03/2026 21:30

Melancholyflower · 20/03/2026 19:03

Are you in England? Is so, the other boys turning 7 in the summer would only be in Y1 if they have been held back and are being educated out of their year group.

Lots of summer born kids defer these days, so perhaps that’s the case here?

Melancholyflower · 20/03/2026 22:04

2026Y · 20/03/2026 21:30

Lots of summer born kids defer these days, so perhaps that’s the case here?

So they would be being educated out of their year group.

2026Y · 20/03/2026 22:10

Melancholyflower · 20/03/2026 22:04

So they would be being educated out of their year group.

Yeah, sorry, my point was that they may not have been ‘held back’ for academic reasons, their parents pay gave just deferred them because they were young.

TartanCurtain · 20/03/2026 22:18

One of mine basically missed yr 1 due to covid and when they got back was way behind others and nowhere near expected. School did some small group work on particular areas of weakness and it's taken a long while but we are now being told to expect gds in some if not all subjects for sats.

I don't think you can really tell at 5 how it is going to pan out. My dc just wasn't ready for school until about yr 3!

Gagamama2 · 21/03/2026 09:58

TartanCurtain · 20/03/2026 22:18

One of mine basically missed yr 1 due to covid and when they got back was way behind others and nowhere near expected. School did some small group work on particular areas of weakness and it's taken a long while but we are now being told to expect gds in some if not all subjects for sats.

I don't think you can really tell at 5 how it is going to pan out. My dc just wasn't ready for school until about yr 3!

It’s interesting you say yours weren’t really ready for school until about Y3, I feel like mine were the same. So that’s age 7, basically in line with many other countries around the world (Singapore, South Africa, Scandinavia, Estonia, Latvia, Lithuania, Bulgaria, Serbia, Russia, after a quick Google search). Most countries actually start at 6. I think it’s crazy that in the U.K. we start at 4 😵‍💫

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sittingonabeach · 21/03/2026 10:25

@Gagamama2 most of those countries will have a form of pre school/kindergarten for younger ages, some of which will be compulsory

OhDear111 · 22/03/2026 08:49

@sittingonabeach Many countries have nurseries that lots of parents use because they are heavily subsidised. These dc are definitely not at home as the other posters think. They are learning how to learn.

Gagamama2 · 22/03/2026 10:22

@sittingonabeach @OhDear111

yes of course there will be nurseries and pre-k type classrooms for under 6 or 7 year olds. But they aren’t compulsory and if your child isn’t ready you don’t have to send them. They also aren’t formally teaching the children reading and maths etc, and assessing them. Y1 in particular is a big leap in formal learning for children compared to nursery where any learning done is a bonus / side effect of playing, rather than the other way around