School mums being horrible

[Lillymae12]

I’m reaching out hoping some lovely mums themselves can give me advise on how they’d handle a horrid situation I’ve found myself in. My husband is friendly and lovely we have 4 kids. Whilst my littlest has been a baby he’s done the majority of the school runs. He was waiting in the playground with 2 other mums in the year above everything was fine. Then one of them tried to add my husband on instagram he accepted as he felt bad but I said it’s fine at school but social media for me is a boundary that makes me feel uneasy? Anyway that was cleared up and no issues. Been taking my kids to school more recently to break it up and feel more involved. I kept my distance and obviously just stood with the few mums I knew I could let on to. There was no hard feelings for the other 2 women I just simply didn’t know them. I noticed that one of them parked directly facing my car and just stared at me. Then when I was waiting on my own they both laughed really loud and was just making it very obvious they was laughing about me. It made me embarrassed in case other parents saw. I felt humiliated but sucked it up and walked away with my kids. Then I crossed the road this morning and the lady that added him shouted “ok byeeeeeee” at me?? I don’t understand it. Her friend just stares at me until I look then just turns and talks to someone. I’m hating how it’s making me feel? My husband said he’s going to stand away from them but doesn’t mind confronting it with them. I just feel this is what they want? They want the drama and I’m best off just keeping out of their way. I’ve never been bullied and at 33 I’ve never felt so belittled by people I don’t even know before. I just want some advise on what you’d do if you was in my situation. Would you stop doing it? Should I say something. It’s making what should just be dropping and getting my children very difficult and a daily thing i dread because it’s making me feel upset and anxious and I just want to be happy for my family.

I am really confused about this.

i would friend request other parents from the school run as it really helps me build a network and I want to get to know people better.

you seem to be saying that your husband is not allowed to have female friends on socials?

if so then the other two mums are probably quite confused about what is going on, or if they do know they probably think you are being very controlling and anxious.

it’s very unlikely they were laughing at you.

Im not getting this. Why would 2 women who barely know you or uour husband, whose children are not even in the same year approach your husband and ask to add him on Instagram? Sounds bonkers to me. Why are you worried about it? You are there at the school to put in and pick up your child. Do you desperately want to be part of this clique? Do uou feel left out, lonely. Sorry, all you have to do is be polite come and go. You dont have to get involved with these people at all. Why was your husband getting involved? Just ask him to clear these people out of his account. Pick up the kids yourself be more present, dont show these people any interest, just be polite stand away from them , speak with people you know come and go and dont hang about. Its all very immature behaviour. School gate friends are acquaintances not real friends.