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Trouble with teacher

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msta · 12/01/2026 21:59

Hello, looking for some advice on my daughter’s teacher. My daughter (8) has really struggled with her new teacher since moving up in September. Just a bit of back ground, my daughter is a good student, always winning awards for being polite kind considerate to others, goes out of her way to make others feel better which has always been noticed by teachers. I was warned of This teacher, as she is known to be “old school” keeping children in at breaks, shouting, embarrassing children infront of others. Children have had to move schools due to the teacher. The first week of school in sept, she told my daughter off numerous times in space of the week, for being to slow on her work and telling the whole class to blame her for making everybody late to break.( That’s just one thing as I’m sure I’ve lost a few readers by now) a few things like that, defiantly got my daughter in the wrong foot with her teacher. This upset my daughter very much. I went into school, sorted it and the teacher has been better with her but still shouts a lot of embarrasses the other children (other mums are also onto the head about this) my daughter for the first time ever has been showing anxiety, worrying to go to school, crying on a night and a morning she said she is worried all the time and is just waiting to get shouted it. The school now want to try and build her confidence but my concern is that the only reason her confidence has been shattered is due to her, I’m thinking of changing my daughters school. What are peoples opinions ? Also worth mentioning she has this teacher all the way to y5, as it’s a small school so not like they’re changing in September. What would you do, take her out, there is another school not far and I know a few people who take there children there and it is apparently better of the two. I want to change her schools but I’m hoping for some other opinions.
so sorry it’s long just trying to give a vague idea of what’s been going on.

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FlyingPi · 12/01/2026 22:36

Take her out if at all possible.

My son's just changed schools. Not for that reason, but he was really unhappy at his old one and I think it set in with the previous year's teacher. We knew she was similarly "old school" but only since he's got out and into his new school (which he likes) has he really felt comfortable enough to tell us most of it. Things like her shouting at him to hurry up when he has a stammer. Embarrassing him about having longish hair (and other kids who have dyed hair). Saying he wasn't trying hard enough when he has a dyslexia diagnosis (I don't think she actually thinks dyslexia is real from other things said).

Anyway my point is even though your daughter's telling you about this, she may not even be telling you the half of it, or how it makes her feel. If I'd realised I'd have sped up the change, got him out of there quicker. It's important kids know that if they ask for help - your daughter is asking - they will get help as otherwise they'll stop asking, they'll give up and disengage with school.

msta · 12/01/2026 22:41

Thank you so much for replying. I think I just needed somebody else’s opinion. It sounds awful what your son went through and I’m glad he’s a lot happier now. Did he manage to find new friends okay?thank you so much for taking your time to reply, all the best x

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Aliceisagooddog · 12/01/2026 22:46

Yes, I think I would check out other schools. Have you escalated your concerns with the head? This teacher sounds awful. Check school complaints policy.

FlyingPi · 12/01/2026 22:48

He's only been there a week, since holidays, but I think he will do fine. He had friends at old school but was so turned against it that he was more than happy to leave. In fact he said to me on Sunday night "this is the first time in ages I haven't been dreading that it's school tomorrow". He's ten by the way. Depends on the child's personality but he is the kind that if he goes off something, he'll never really go back to liking it and that's what happened with school. Good luck!

Fernsrus · 12/01/2026 23:00

Take her out. Don’t let that bully ruin her self confidence.

Sunshineandoranges · 12/01/2026 23:05

I moved my child and she as so much happier in her new school.

Bubbles332 · 12/01/2026 23:21

I wouldn’t be sending my child to someone I didn’t like for over 6 hours a day every day. Transfer to the other school.

msta · 13/01/2026 07:55

Thank you so much for all your replies. Yes the head is aware and she recommended the confidence course. Yeah I agree with you all, my daughter doesn’t want to go but doesn’t want to leave her friends behind but I think the pros outweigh the cons. I wouldn’t want her to feel like I’ve pressured her but the last couple of days she is leaning towards moving. Thank you everybody. The teacher is the main governor and she has worked at the school for over 30 years. I think they’re stuck with her! The head has said it without saying it, they have tried to speak to her about tone etc. I think she does it for a couple of days and then goes back to her old ways

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