What would you do ? social problems aged 7

[KatieDD]

My DD can be quite a difficult child, she's quite insecure and has absolutely no confidence at all.
She has two friends in the school, two basically have a little love/hate triangle and when we went on holiday the 2 girls became closer and wouldn't let her back into the group.
So now she's not really got anybody out of a class of 30 that she plays with, some of them are friendly enough but they don't seem to be on her wave length at all.
She's really creative, likes her own company and can concentrate for hours if she's interested in something.
So I have my eye on the independant school close by which is about to become an state school, but i would need to get her in before Sept 2009 to secure a place.
I was thinking that if she is in a smaller group the teachers can give her more help in the areas she struggles with, Maths and socially, also they can keep an eye on the subtle stuff (some of the girls in her class do take the piss out of her, she doesn't realise but as a parent you can see it), plus I was hoping in an accedemic school there might be somebody else a bit like her.
Any thoughts/wise words ?

Have other kids in the class back for tea so you can broaden her friendship base?

Get her into things outside of school to build up her confidence. You could choose something like Brownies, and she'd be able to make friends too.

How is she difficult?

I've been doing that for 2 years, she never and i mean never gets invited back, they are a funny bunch of mothers at the school too.
Difficult as in attention seeking, tells other 7 year old she wants to kill herself to upset them and that she's half cat.
I wouldn't mind but she has the most interesting social life of the whole class, goes horse riding, dance classes, brownies, holidays twice a year.

Hmm. The half cat thing would be normal to me. I would clamp down hard on her telling other kids she's going to kill herself. That would put me off inviting her if my dd told me that. Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear.

If you feel she's attention seeking - can you/dh give her more attention at home?

Perhaps she needs fewer activities and more home time - maybe doing a craft activity together so you can talk.

I've been thinking about this thread while I was out.

Do you think you ought to see the GP re her talking about killing herself? It just seems so out of place for a 7 year old to be even thinking about this sort of thing.

Anyway, a bump for you to get more opinions.