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Issues in reception

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Kimmanx · 09/11/2025 22:50

My son started reception this year. He had already been at the school nursery for a year. He is happy, seems to have friends and is doing well.
Some of the parents at the school give me some concerns. Lots of swearing at the school gates and a general roughness. I am from a rough part of where I live, but have worked very hard to try and build a better life. The school seems supportive but I have concerns about my sons peers.
There is currently a boy in his class who is very disruptive. Wiping bogeys on kids, spitting at them and has told my son that his dad is going to come to our house with a hammer to smash it up. He is 4. I know kids say ridiculous things at that age but im just concerned about what influence peers will have on my son if this sort of thing is common. I have spoken to the school about it and they have said they are aware there are some issues with said child.
There is another school nearby that seems to have really nice polite and chatty parents, I know many from playgroups. I sometimes think maybe I should consider moving my son there? But he seems very happy and content and I am concerned it would be a move for my benefit more than his.... but then aren't kids a product of their environment?
Any thoughts really gladly appreciated

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Qwatche · 09/11/2025 23:14

I would move him. He can also be happy somewhere else. I am an ex receptionist teacher and at that age they are all little and not really too different but it won’t stay that way. By year 6 there will be a difference. Move now whilst they are all the same.

FullOfMomsense · 10/11/2025 00:05

I would move him too. Problems like that don't improve.

Opine · 10/11/2025 00:18

Move him. What will he do when they all get older and someone invites him to their house?
My eldest DC went to a primary school in a really rough area. Their best friend was lovely but the mother had had 3 children previously removed & bred Pitbulls . These dogs lived in the front room. Obviously DC couldn’t go anywhere near but it was very difficult to explain why to a 5 year old.
Once there was a fight between parents in the yard. We were gone by year 1.
Nightmare. Just move.

FunnyOrca · 10/11/2025 00:38

What impression do you get of the children further up the school? If you are looking at the year 6s age feel strongly they are not the sort of children you would like your child surrounded by, change school.

Kimmanx · 11/11/2025 20:14

Thank you for your replies. Hes my first so its all new to me. The school is lovely and small hence why we stuck with it as our second choice. ( Didn't get our first) the year six kids don't seem to be trouble really.

A lot of the kids in reception play roblox and suff and my son feels a little left out as he doesn't. Am I being judgmental? Its just hes only 4 and hes got plenty of time for gaming in the coming years.

Theres a kid in his class who has been a bit troublesome and he said tomy son he was going to get his dad to take a hammer to our house... I mean I know kids say crazy things but that didn't fill me with confidence. Ive spoken to the school about it.

Im feeling overwhelmed by it all. I just feel a little sad maybe that it seems like I've not connected with any of the parents... but maybe that says more about me? But I also worry about his relationships with peers. The other school which could be an option seems to have nice families but its not performing as well academically...

Am I overthinking this?

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