Choosing a primary school - walking vs a drive

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Hi

Just looking for a bit of advice. We’re in the process of looking at primary schools for next year. We live on a road full of families with an infant school that feeds into a junior school on the same road. It would be incredibly easy for drop off and pick up, including being manageable with our commute to London.

A bit further off (30 minutes walk or 10 minutes drive) there is another school (which isn’t separated into infant and junior, it goes right through).

Both schools have good Ofsted reports, both schools have similar attainment, both schools are really well rated in the community - the general consensus is that all the local schools are great and you can’t go wrong.

However the further off school had a nicer building and grounds - everything felt a little newer, a bit more spacious and well kept. I suppose my instant feel there was that it was lovely, and I didn’t get the same feeling at the school on our road, although it was very sweet. We’ll also be visiting the junior school on our road shortly and that’s bigger with great facilities, although we’ll possibly have moved away by then.

How would you prioritise this? I massively overthink decisions. I think I want permission to choose the closer school but also feel guilty that I should be trying to choose the absolute best school regardless of distance. Although obviously you can’t judge this from a single visit and a nicer building doesn’t make a better school!

Anyway someone please talk me out of my decision paralysis and knock some sense into me.

Also parking near schools is a nightmare in this town. Living on a school road I know this and always try to avoid driving during drop off and pick up times. Nursery drop off and picks up is a ten minute drive across town, but it can take over 30 minutes for a round trip depending on traffic which obviously could be worse, but when you work fulltime time is precious. So I definitely dream of a ten minute walk for drop offs but that feels like a selfish reason!

I would always go for the nearby school (unless it’s absolutely awful obviously). It is so nice having a short walk and being able to pop back and forth when there are assemblies etc, and your child will have lots of friends nearby which helps with community building. No stress about parking either (have a read of the million MN threads on that subject!). Then when they’re a bit older they can take themselves to and from school to get more confident before secondary.

Walk, make life easy, esp when they get older and your happy for them to wander a few minutes along the road with pals, you might not be so happy for them walking 30 minutes alone.

BTW its the teachers who matter, not the shiny new building.

I agree, pick the school in walking distance every time unless there are major reasons against it.

It will probably be a 30min drive at school drop off time especially if you have to find a parking space too.
Either is fine but assume 2 hours of parental time to drop and collect each day for the further one.

Definitely walk, will make your life far easier. Plus when they make friends at the new school chances are they will be walking distant from school (and your house) so no car needed for play dates etc

Walking distance, reassess for secondary

I’d go to the closer school. The school run will be stressful and it’s unlikely your child will be able to do the 30m walk independently when they’re older.

Walking. Also more likely to have local friends they can play with.

Our quality of life was improved no end by having a school within easy walking distance.

So simple. Part of a tight knit community, school friends also within easy walking distance.

Unless the local school is a disaster I can’t understand why anyone would condemn themselves to driving to and from school, parking hoo ha, adding to congestion and pollution etc

Thank you everyone. You are all the voices of reason that the anxious, perfectionist part of my brain needed to hear.

Closer is usually the best option. Unless you have very specific requirements that is.

Nice to have the choice whether to walk or not. It's a 10 minute drive, including unpaved sections to our allocated school. The 'nearest', that we didn't get into is similar drive, all paved but up a flipping steep hill, and the direct route which we would take to walk ideally is closed after a landslip with no forseeable change to that.

I'd go mostly on which school feels like a better fit for your child(ren) when you visit and talk to them. Not ofsted, not which has nicer buildings, but where you feel your children will be happy.

All of this.

Plus adding in the fact a friend will be walking past your house and will pick up / drop off your child if you are ever incapacitated (it happens) or your car is off the road or whatever.

The school in my road would have to be the most dire school with the worst reputation for me to consider driving elsewhere.
Remember this is for 7 years (more if there are, or will be younger siblings).

Definitely walking distance.

There's something about people driving to school drop off/pickup that makes them totally infuriating. It feels like the Wild West at times.

I love the walk. It's just a nice time to chat.

Go for the school you can walk to. You are choosing a life here not just for you but for your child. Not only for the next few years be so much easier for you than the wacky races journeys to and from School but as your child approach year six they will develop the necessary independence and streetwise aspect needed to carry them forward to the next phase.

I think it is better for children, if possible, not to be ferried everywhere by car.
To get used to walking, getting places under their own steam (when old enough) , independence, self sufficiency, more exercise.

Nearby. The walk and talk with your children is priceless.

Nearer walkable school for the win. Driving to school is a nightmare – as you say. Parking is impossible.

YY walking and chatting to the DC is so lovely. Everyone calms down and it's a great way to start or finish the day.

And yes - it's not the buildings, it's the people in them that matter.

Echo all of the above. Also, they will have local friends, which is a real benefit too.

We went for a "drive to" school (for good reason, not just a slightly nicer building) and OMG the driving and parking of the other parents. It was quite embarrassing to be associated with them.

It is also a right pain for commuting to need a car for only a small bit of the journey.

Honestly go with the nearer school if the only difference is nicer facilities. The stress you will save yourself will be worth it. There are days when you will have extra trips too e.g. parents' evening, class assembly. Plus it's a big bonus to have friends nearby, both in terms of playdates but also asking a favour if you are ill/stuck on a train etc and need help with school runs.

My kids are at a 'concrete' school with the other school nearby having a big field. In infants they don't really notice these things. What my DS does notice more is having to leave early in the morning. He is 7 and genuinely would pick the closest school if he was offered a hypothetical choice, so he could have say 10 mins more playing. (He is already at the closest school, this is just hypothetical). 'Best' is what overall is the best scenario when you factor in commuting too.

Definitely the infant school. Through primaries are often driven by the needs of the older children and y6 sats etc. I love an infant school which can make its policies and rules etc fit the age of the children better.

If the schools are that similar, pick the one you can walk too. It’ll make your life so much easier to pick up and drop off, you’ll have a stronger sene of local community and be nearby for any play dates etc.

I would go for the closest school. Proximity is so important. Not just in terms of easier drop offs but in terms of making local friends and being able to have friends over after school etc.