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Kids party. Who to invite not to invite?

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CatJ21 · 24/09/2025 19:35

Long story short. But my daughter made a friend 1st day in her new school. This other girl who I’ll called O had never been that nice to her. Her mum is friendly and often messages me to meet up in the holidays etc but over the past few months I’ve had to make my excuses to save my daughter being upset. It all came to a head just before going back to school with her being nasty to my daughter at holiday club. My daughter was so upset and it’s been constant things one after another. I decided to message her mum and say what she’d been doing to my daughter. She was fine with it she knew she had some issues to deal with with her

Anyway my daughter’s bday is coming up. Did I mention I hate kids parties!!! But this isn’t about me. We’ve decided on a small party at a local salon where the girls can have their nails done and a bit of glitter in their hair. Nothing over the top.

Do we invite O? I would say no but then I don’t want to seem like a complete bitch for excluding a child and will it make things worse for my daughter in school!

We would only be inviting 3/4 children max so not everyone will be coming

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Springadorable · 24/09/2025 19:55

Who does your daughter want to invite?

DiscoBeat · 24/09/2025 20:02

We only invited the friends they wanted to invite. We gave them a gentle reminder to reciprocate if they hadn't got someone on their list that had invited DC though (unless there was a particularly good reason not to).

DiscoBeat · 24/09/2025 20:04

NB being nasty to your daughter is an especially good reason not to invite them!!

justasmalltownmum · 24/09/2025 20:07

If you are only inviting 4 kids then she is not being excluded. She is just not being invited along with the other 26 kids in the class.

Blueberry911 · 24/09/2025 20:07

If she's not nice to your child, she shouldn't be invited.

Not sure what's gotten into some parents lately, there's a whole thread where a mum has now invited her child's bully to his party and he's punched her child in the face before!

I'm confused by people lately.

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