Looking for some perspective & opinions: My eldest, DS4, has just started P1 (we're in Scotland), and we're off to a rough start I feel. He's born late in the year, so definitely among the youngest in his class, and I also think he's just young for his age - which would be fine, everyone develops at their own speed, only that I fear that it will taint his experience at school. He's okay with heading to the school grounds in the mornings, but sending him in is a protracted affair with lots of hugs and assurances, and him turning around numerous times with tears in his eyes. It is absolutely breaking my heart to be honest.
While waiting to be let into school he seems to regress to the baby stage, instead of running around - even with the few kids he knows from nursery - he will cling to me or his dad, do his baby voice, not want to let go from my leg, etc. I think he is imitating his toddler brother, who ironically enough would like nothing more than to be able to follow his older brother into school...
We try to be upbeat and gentle, but have now been told by his teacher that he misbehaves in class, mostly not listening and not joining in activities when prompted. - It wasn't in a formal setting, she just checked in with my partner about whether this was a thing at home as well.
I know it's early, but I've been rattled by this, probably because I know nothing of the school system here, not having grown up in the UK, so it's a bit of an unknown, plus the mum guilt just running wild (should we have deferred? nursery said he was totally ready... Is it because I work full-time?). I'm a bit of an emotional mess about it, and don't want to overreact (well maybe too late for that), but I am also looking for better strategies in dealing with it. I thought hearing other people's experiences and thoughts might help.