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Fed up with a stuck up mum at DD school.

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strawberriesandcream01 · 19/05/2008 16:41

Im feeling quite fed up at the mo. Here is the story. We are fortunate enough to be able to send our DD to an independant school, she is getting on very well there and we are really happy with the school. We are a young family (I am 26). DD started last septmber. There is 1 mum in our class who is so stuck up she doesn't even acknowledge me. I have got quite friendly with a couple of other mum's and most of the children in DD class went to the nursery so mum's know each other. I tend to talk to the mums who didn't go to the nursery as we kind of stuck together at the start.

Anyway this one mum was talking to the lady I talk to so I went up and said hello at pick up and she just blanked me and carried on talking, in the end I walked off to classroom door but felt like crying! She never talks to me.

Tomorrow night she has arranged a mums supper at a which is mean't to be very nice but I really don't want to go to. I am going with one of my friend's so am hoping it wont be too bad. pub is 5 minutes from her house, 20 miles from me!!!!! Maybe she was hoping I wouldn't come.

Sorry for the rant but it's really getting to me.

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Saturn74 · 19/05/2008 16:45

Ignore, ignore, ignore her.
You've made an effort with her, but she's behaved very rudely.
Just bask in the warm glow of knowing that you have the moral high ground.

(Or get really drunk tomorrow night, and tell her what you really think of her, preferably over some kind of PA system! )

QOD · 19/05/2008 16:46

jealous!

her not you!

meemar · 19/05/2008 16:46

Ignore her if she is rude. It sounds like you are friendly enough with other mothers to not need her friendship.

Go to the meal and enjoy yourself without worrying about what she thinks. The fact that she has invited you shows she is not malicious enough to leave you out, but maybe she feels she has nothing in common with you. This is her prejudice and not your problem.

Tortington · 19/05/2008 16:49

kick her in the fanjo

introduce her to mumsnet...just leave the addy lying around her house.

you will be able to start pointed threads about independant schools in your area.

then - we wll all get her and kick her in her metaphorical online fanjo

cornsilk · 19/05/2008 16:49

Ignore the silly bint.

pagwatch · 19/05/2008 16:51

Oh god ignore the silly twunt.
It isn't about you or the school or anything else - she is just an arse.

AbbeyA · 19/05/2008 16:54

She is very rude-just ignore her. You have tried to be friendly so it is not your fault-it is her problem. Go and have a nice time.

Sanctuary · 19/05/2008 16:59

Ignore her she has nothing to be stuck up about She wass obviously dragged up not brought up!!!

No Manners ,rude and I do agree jealous

Why would you want to talk with someone like that??

Keep your head up shoulders back,

Shes the one who should hold head with shame for being a snotty cow

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strawberriesandcream01 · 19/05/2008 18:47

I don't want to talk to someone like that! But in no way would I be rude about it and I guess that is where everyone is different, she doesn't want to talk to me so she is rude about it. The thing that gets me is she doesn't even know me and she just makes assumptions on the car i drive (once turned up in our mercedes which I never use as school is 17 miles away and she spoke to me!)

What if no one talks to me tomorrow night though?.

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Sanctuary · 19/05/2008 18:54

People will talk to you (you have friends there and you are going with a friend)

They will talk to you just for being you,

Not cos of the car you drive or the clothes you wear.

This woman is obviously insecure about herself don`t let her make you feel the same

So she does`nt know you thats her loss

nametaken · 19/05/2008 19:15

Ignore her, like the others said. The reason she choose somewhere 5 mins from her house is probably because she organised it.

Of course you'll have someone to talk to.

A little tip for you from Aunty Nametaken:

If you walk up to someone and say hello to them and you absolutely know for certain that they have heard you but are just ignoring you, go closer (as close as you can really, without being aggressive) and say it again, slightly louder, leaving no possibility that she might not have heard you the second time.

Now the person has two choices.

She can either ignore you again, in which case, not only is she being really rude but other people can see that she's being really rude or, and this is what most people would do, she will sheepishly acknowledge you. Once she has sheepishly acknowledged you, then make a point of greeting her every single time you see her. She will soon start to behave herself.

mimsum · 19/05/2008 19:31

there's a couple of mums like this at my dcs' bogstandard (but very nice) state primary so it's nothing to do with it being an independent school

you've been invited - she won't be the only other mum there - go along, enjoy yourself and snub her instead!!

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