Think I've just got a teaching assistant in trouble :(

[MrsSnape]

I know a lad (18) who works as a teaching assistant once a week as part of his university degree.

As I am on speaking terms with him (we go to the same karate club) I often ask him how my son is doing at school, I didn't realise he wasn't allowed to talk about it.

Yesterday he told me about an incident at school after I directly asked him about it but tonight the main teacher came over and told me about the same incident.

Stupidly I said "oh yes...B* mentioned that last night"

She looked quite cross and said "oh, well he shouldn't have said anything..."

I really hope I havn't got him into trouble or put his placement at risk...?

Well he shouldn't really have said anything, but he won't be kicked off or anything. It will be a learning experience for him, I really wouldn't worry.

I'm sure if it was just a one-off, the teacher will just let him know it was an error of judgement, and make sure he understands how he should deal with things. It would be different if lots of people had said something similar about him, but then it would definitely be his fault not yours!

Was it a serious breach of confidentiality and was it about another child?

was it you who had trouble with the weird bloke? did it get resolved?

Basically my son has a few problems with his behaviour at school. This particular incident involved him fighting at play time and getting into trouble (quite serious). No other names were mentioned.

Should I warn him that the teacher is cross about it or just leave it and hope ot blows over do you think?

Mascara, it was me yes...it has been resolved I think, Things have been great recently.

When you see him next just say how sorry you feel that you may have got him into trouble.
That was`nt your intention

It isn't against any regulations for him to tell you about your own child. Only someone else's.

Although they all do it anyway IME...

I wouldn't say anything at all to him. if he mentions it, apoligise, say that you didn't realise that saying anything would get him into trouble. After all, he should well know about the rules of confidentiality - that should have been covered before his placement began. It's not your fault.

I.m a TA at a primary school and chocRH is right, it isn't against confidentiality regulations to discuss your own child with you, he just isn't allowed to talk to you about another persons child. It may just be that the teacher would have prefered to talk to you about it herself. Shouldn't imagine he'll get in any trouble